Are you victim blaming when you encourage people not to take nude selfies?

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15. Absolutely not.

"Victim blaming" used to actually mean something in specific circumstances like rape cases in a court room, etc. but now it seems to be used to avoid a lot of personal adult responsibilities and a continuation of adolescent rebellion.

As a adults we hopefully have learned that actions bear consequences - some good and some ill. If we don't want to risk certain possible consequences then we simply don't take the action.

Nude selfies are a product of the current times where narcissism is more rampant in a generation reared on social networking and persona management. Eventually enough of them - men and women, celebrities or common folk - are going to have to realize that there is zero privacy in this digital age. If you don't want a nude photo out there, for pete's sake either don't take them or don't store them in the 'cloud', on your mobile phone, or anywhere else that security is non-existence.

This advise is not victim blaming; it is not slut shaming; but it is simply the stark reality of the situation. Sadly, your daughter can not understand this, then there really is nothing you can do. If she makes the same mistake, then she, alone, has to suffer any negative consequences. That is the only way we grow and learn. Over-protecting or enabling her through acceptance that is victim blaming is far more detrimental in my view to her authentic adult femininity than just stating it like it is and any resultant natural consequences of any of her true choices.