Are you victim blaming when you encourage people not to take nude selfies?

[hunter]

91. Yeah, but what will you say if she does something unwise?

That she "shouldn't have done that?"

That would only make the situation worse.

This "whole world will see" sort of reasoning is incomplete.

Kids should have a realistic view of the hazards of various activities, and a realistic knowledge of how to stay out of trouble.

The hazard here is not the photographs, the hazard here is that some creep will steal them and post them on the internet.

"Just say no," doesn't work with kids; not with sex, not with drugs and alcohol, not with cars. It often seems teens and young twenty-somethings are not especially motivated by fear of physical injury or embarrassment. It's the "youthful immortality" thing that seems to be built into our genes.

Sending intimate pictures is fun, sex is fun, alcohol is fun, drugs are fun, cars are fun. As parents it's our job to help our kids safely navigate these dangerous waters, and that is a very complicated business.