Are you victim blaming when you encourage people not to take nude selfies?

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108. A mind reader, arrogant

and condescending. Hopefully this is just your online persona hidden behind an avatar and not how you are in real life.

Yes, I am quite confident that I know exactly what it means to be both an adult and to exhibit mature behavior. I have been in the field of psychology for almost 30 years. I have worked extensively with trauma and abuse survivors. I also diplomat status in clinical sexology.

If we are discussing the Lawrence leak, if there was a crime committed, it should and will be dealt with legally. It still behooves both men and women, as adults, to recognize that there are risks in various environments and to have boundaries to deal with them. We expect adults to lock the doors of their home. We expect adults to realize that if they forget to lock their car and their wallet is stolen, while the criminal if caught will be prosecuted, the individual is still not a passive victim of fate. One would hope that as an adult that they will not make a similar mistake again in the future. Assuming that something is private when it is not especially when general knowledge is there is no excuse.

So, if we are discussing the actual OP where a parent is faced with dealing with this latest hacking by fielding questions from their youngsters about privacy and security, it is definitely not victim blaming to offer wise counsel. You are free to take all the naked photos you want. Also you are free to distribute and store them however you want. As an adult you are allowed those freedoms. And if you choose insecure and open ways like taking and storing them on your cellphone, you are not a passive victim of fate if and when a criminal steals from you. Career criminals know how to profile their victims. As an adult, why give them reasons to target yourself? That makes no sense and yes, it is immature to believe that life should be a utopian existence where any free act should only produce positive outcomes and that the culture will be made perfect and devoid of violence, abuse, criminality, etc.