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Lancero

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Wed Sep 3, 2014, 06:57 PM

Sep 2014

He can still report the abuse but he doesn't.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5483789

REASON FOR ALERT

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

YOUR COMMENTS

Sickening post, rape is a a incrediebly henious crime that leaves a permant mark on the victim.

With how rape victims are treated, many of them believe they deserve what happened to them, or that their rapist did nothing wrong, or that they are now worthless because they were raped. It's reasons like this that are why many victims are to afraid to speak up against their rapists.

It's extremely sickening, and very inappropriate, to be saying that 'the person wasn't raped, because they refuse to report it!".

JURY RESULTS

A randomly-selected Jury of DU members completed their review of this alert at Wed Sep 3, 2014, 12:55 PM, and voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT ALONE.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
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Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
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Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: I disagree with the opinion in the alert. I don't think the poster is expressing what is said in the alert at all.
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: I don't agree with the poster but I don't think that this deserves to be hidden.
Juror #7 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: The alerter is 100% correct. This post is gross.

Given how the site's been going recently, I'm not suprised that the jury decided to let this insult against rape victims stand.

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Statutory rape victim forced to pay child support [View all] mfcorey1 Sep 2014 OP

rape victims are almost always forced to bear the brunt of the costs associated geek tragedy Sep 2014 #1

It is not unjust, because the support is the right of the child's. He should have answered the msanthrope Sep 2014 #4

in the case where society did not protect a child, society ought to foot the bill nt geek tragedy Sep 2014 #6

An argument he can no longer make because he didn't answer the court papers. Look, I think he's msanthrope Sep 2014 #8

when he was still a legal minor? nt geek tragedy Sep 2014 #9

22. He was served with papers at age 22. nt msanthrope Sep 2014 #12

he was actually 20 when served. geek tragedy Sep 2014 #14

I think you are right...20, so he had until 22 to contest. I think he's in a bad situation, and I msanthrope Sep 2014 #18

also note that the state is seeking money to compensate itself, not provide for geek tragedy Sep 2014 #20

Well, the state is attempting a double garnish....taking current support and arrearages. That's msanthrope Sep 2014 #23

I bet some days it sucks to be a lawyer. Nuclear Unicorn Sep 2014 #27

It sucks when people mistake my stating what the law is for my approval of what the law is. msanthrope Sep 2014 #30

If there were more lawyers like you Nuclear Unicorn Sep 2014 #31

Thank you for the compliment. It means a lot to me on a forum where I am not popular. nt msanthrope Sep 2014 #34

And I hope you understand I wasn't jumping on your case about the *law*, but about.... moriah Sep 2014 #107

No...I took no offense at all. nt msanthrope Sep 2014 #108

victim blaming AngryAmish Sep 2014 #10

I'm not blaming him for his rape. But when you are 22 and served with court papers, you need to do msanthrope Sep 2014 #13

yet you do feel entitled to assign blame AngryAmish Sep 2014 #16

I think the woman in question is the one to blame for the rape. But as to being served with msanthrope Sep 2014 #21

And maybe, just make, the trauma of that time being thrust back into his face was too much for him? moriah Sep 2014 #84

I agree completely, but the law doesn't work that way. nt msanthrope Sep 2014 #105

At 14 he was too young to give informed consent to buy a car. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2014 #25

At 14, he procreated. The state simply does not care how or why he did, because the state msanthrope Sep 2014 #28

The rights of which child? lumberjack_jeff Sep 2014 #38

The daughter. Her rights to child support are not vitiated by who her parents are. msanthrope Sep 2014 #40

Presuming the child is his dsc Sep 2014 #19

Paternity test is part of the process of establishing parentage and assigning support. It serves as msanthrope Sep 2014 #22

conceeding that it is never a good idea not to answer legal papers dsc Sep 2014 #69

Rape victim blaming? TransitJohn Sep 2014 #74

Hardly. nt msanthrope Sep 2014 #106

The right of a rape victim to pursue charges, or not, is entirely THEIRS. moriah Sep 2014 #83

Hopefully he can still press charges? djean111 Sep 2014 #2

Yes, he can. There's no statute of limitations. Xithras Sep 2014 #35

There may actually be another law that would cover this TorchTheWitch Sep 2014 #82

It seems like it would be advantageous to him to take the paternity test davidpdx Sep 2014 #102

What is the statute of limitations? gollygee Sep 2014 #3

Death. Xithras Sep 2014 #36

Here's a link that isn't connected to the Moonie-owned Washington Times justiceischeap Sep 2014 #5

That article makes the right point I think gollygee Sep 2014 #7

I can see both sides justiceischeap Sep 2014 #11

I think this is an exception gollygee Sep 2014 #15

I agree on all counts justiceischeap Sep 2014 #24

+1 n/t Gormy Cuss Sep 2014 #26

He sounds like a stand-up guy Warpy Sep 2014 #79

Just as disgraceful as rapists being granted visitation rights (nt) Nye Bevan Sep 2014 #17

Victim of statutory rape that results in a pregnancy should get full custody at their option and... stevenleser Sep 2014 #29

Good point. The state has awarded custody to an admitted sex offender. n/t lumberjack_jeff Sep 2014 #39

Do you mean it hasn't been revoked? loyalsister Sep 2014 #44

Conviction as a sex offender should be grounds for revocation of custody. Do you agree? n/t lumberjack_jeff Sep 2014 #45

I do agree loyalsister Sep 2014 #64

Either way, the rapist should have to go to jail. Jamastiene Sep 2014 #57

I agree. And the timeline in this case should be indisputably damning. stevenleser Sep 2014 #58

that is some utter bullshit. La Lioness Priyanka Sep 2014 #32

I'm all about making deadbeat parents pay for their children. Sheldon Cooper Sep 2014 #33

He should have reported the abuse. dilby Sep 2014 #37

Wow. Switch genders and you would get excoriated here. joeglow3 Sep 2014 #41

He can still report the abuse but he doesn't. dilby Sep 2014 #42

Are you claiming every woman on DU who was raped and didn't report it really enjoyed it??? joeglow3 Sep 2014 #47

So he doesn't want to pay support because he was raped but doesn't want to report the rape dilby Sep 2014 #50

Again change the genders here and you would be roasted on an open spit for this dsc Sep 2014 #54

If a 14 year old girl was raped and had a baby but did not want to report her rapist to autorities dilby Sep 2014 #55

Have you ever been raped? Sheldon Cooper Sep 2014 #56

What a tasteless question to ask.............. thelordofhell Sep 2014 #81

Tough cookies for you then, isn't it? Sheldon Cooper Sep 2014 #88

No not really........... thelordofhell Sep 2014 #93

Nope. Sheldon Cooper Sep 2014 #95

I agree with you. It would be tasteless under nearly any other circumstance. nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #101

It's not an unfair question........but it should have been worded differently thelordofhell Sep 2014 #110

Yes I noticed the original post was tasteless thelordofhell Sep 2014 #109

This is a horrible position to take. Behind the Aegis Sep 2014 #87

I went to the authorities. They did nothing. But even if I hadn't went.... moriah Sep 2014 #97

It is very common for rape victims to not tell the authorities gollygee Sep 2014 #100

If a 14 year old girl was raped and had a baby but did not want to report her rapist to authorities S_B_Jackson Sep 2014 #103

He was 14 when it happened kcr Sep 2014 #80

But what if he said he was 18 at the time? Art_from_Ark Sep 2014 #86

That's irrelevant. Behind the Aegis Sep 2014 #89

What if he had a fake ID that said he was 18? Art_from_Ark Sep 2014 #91

But we don't know that he did. He was 14. Behind the Aegis Sep 2014 #92

It makes absolutely no difference gollygee Sep 2014 #99

As someone else already responded, it doesn't matter kcr Sep 2014 #104

Results Lancero Sep 2014 #66

So, say a rape victim "did everything right", and her attacker still went free. moriah Sep 2014 #94

Jury results... alp227 Sep 2014 #59

That is so horrible. KitSileya Sep 2014 #62

Un-freaking-believable joeglow3 Sep 2014 #71

Who knows, right wingers are probably randomly voting "leave it alone" in a plot to make DU suck! nt alp227 Sep 2014 #72

That was my first thought as well nt. joeglow3 Sep 2014 #73

"Just an opinion? SERIOUSLY? Even denigrating rape victims isn't enough???" TransitJohn Sep 2014 #76

Rape is rape. A rape victim is a rape victim. alp227 Sep 2014 #77

Oh I know, and agree. TransitJohn Sep 2014 #78

There are plenty of people who do the same thing to female rape victims at DU gollygee Sep 2014 #98

He was a minor. No such thing as "consent". n/m ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2014 #43

There have been posts on subjects like this before treestar Sep 2014 #48

It was rape. It is disgraceful for you to use the word "consensual". (nt) Nye Bevan Sep 2014 #51

Children are not able to consent. KitSileya Sep 2014 #61

He was mercuryblues Sep 2014 #67

Abuse and rape are never consensual. Starry Messenger Sep 2014 #68

Rape victim blaming? TransitJohn Sep 2014 #75

Why the fuck do people think that they should have the right... moriah Sep 2014 #85

plus fucking ONE THOUSAND! Behind the Aegis Sep 2014 #90

Where in the US is sex with a 14-year-old consensual? moriah Sep 2014 #96

Is he even liable for child support from the child's birth? treestar Sep 2014 #46

Apparently not until age 18. There is so much nonsense in these policies its ridiculous. stevenleser Sep 2014 #49

While I understand your position... Whiskeytide Sep 2014 #52

It's never best interests of the child to have their custody given to a rapist. That part's easy. stevenleser Sep 2014 #53

He ought to charge her with statutory rape and sue for sole custody. rocktivity Sep 2014 #60

Good luck in that in a society that would laugh in his face. chrisa Sep 2014 #111

Amazing how many people say the 14 year old boy "consented" davidn3600 Sep 2014 #63

i do. especially in how this is sinking, too. NuttyFluffers Sep 2014 #65

I don't think seeking child support is the right thing to do. Ilsa Sep 2014 #70