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Earth_First

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11. Absolutely!

Tue Sep 9, 2014, 06:53 AM

Sep 2014

Several years back I intervened at the gas station when an older man backhanded his wife at the pump next to mine.

I immediately walked over to ask if there was a problem, if she was okay.

Almost immediately the man began to roll up his window as I approached. As I knocked on the window, he told me to mind my own business.

I told him that domestic violence is EVERYONE'S business.

He refused to engage my conversation and his wife, clearly distraught and shaken, wouldn't speak with me either.

I walked to the front of his car, took a photograph of his licence plate and called 911.

The LEO called me back later and said that he had followed up on the call, however she refused to press charges, that it was a misunderstanding on my part.

Sigh.

That poor woman. I'm certain that she is subjected to this frequently. I wish her well and hope she gets the help she deserves to overcome this abusive relationship...

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Would you help a woman being assaulted? [View all] davidn3600 Sep 2014 OP

If it was just one unarmed guy jambo101 Sep 2014 #1

Yes, one way or another. Uncle Joe Sep 2014 #2

I know what the point is, but... TreasonousBastard Sep 2014 #3

Were you even watching the same video I was? moriah Sep 2014 #6

delete-- dupe TreasonousBastard Sep 2014 #3

I would help anyone I perceived to be in trouble Skittles Sep 2014 #7

Yes JustAnotherGen Sep 2014 #8

I've intervened in the past The Traveler Sep 2014 #9

I would and I have gwheezie Sep 2014 #10

Hero can get overused, but not in that case for sure kcr Sep 2014 #18

He was a retired cop gwheezie Sep 2014 #35

Absolutely! Earth_First Sep 2014 #11

No, I would try to stop the assault jberryhill Sep 2014 #12

Call the police, but don't intervene unless absolutely necessary Lurks Often Sep 2014 #13

That's the smart move. /nt Marr Sep 2014 #23

Absolutely pipi_k Sep 2014 #27

Of course. Iggo Sep 2014 #14

I have. LisaLynne Sep 2014 #15

I have done it and would again ripcord Sep 2014 #38

I got my ass whooped for it before... cherokeeprogressive Sep 2014 #16

Stop and ask if either needed help The Straight Story Sep 2014 #17

I'd not mess with the perp, but I'd go call 911 or police. Triana Sep 2014 #19

Was recently remembering an event I witnessed back in 1983 tencats Sep 2014 #20

I'm not Bud White. MohRokTah Sep 2014 #21

Honestly, I wouldn't do it again, no. Marr Sep 2014 #22

In the US yes I would davidpdx Sep 2014 #24

Yes sarisataka Sep 2014 #25

I tried to once. Domestic violence in public. Zorra Sep 2014 #26

yes Marrah_G Sep 2014 #28

In a heartbeat benld74 Sep 2014 #29

I would do everything I could to help... one_voice Sep 2014 #30

Would? Did. Xithras Sep 2014 #31

Yup, done it. intaglio Sep 2014 #32

If I clearly see domestic violence in action, you bet I'll intervene derby378 Sep 2014 #33

It depends on wether I could do something effective. upaloopa Sep 2014 #34

Many years ago, I heard a woman scream for help at the mall parking lot. DrewFlorida Sep 2014 #36

Only if I hear the words "Help" Xyzse Sep 2014 #37

A couple years ago, after listening to my neighbors arguements every weekend for several months. DrewFlorida Sep 2014 #39

I have done it several times before & wouldn't hesitate to do it again, even though I had one woman Ghost in the Machine Sep 2014 #40