She married him because she is an idiot.

[moriah]

49. Calling women idiots doesn't help them reclaim the power they've surrendered, though.

(Yes, I read your posts now, and thank you for sharing.)

The only person who can heal successfully enough to actually get the gumption to leave, yes, is the victim. But calling her an idiot isn't going to help. You seem to attack the victim in the video because she stood up to her abuser rather than cower down in front of him. Maybe she was trying, right for that moment, to reclaim that power.

Instead of calling victims of abuse idiots, why not try to do something constructive? Send them things like that thing you wrote about them not being punching bags. It's awful to watch, it's not fun, you feel totally helpless when you see someone going back again and again. But calling them idiots is dismissive, rude, insensitive, and completely over the top, and I have no idea why this hasn't already been alerted on.

It's not just a difference of opinion, it's a difference of philosophy, and the victim-blaming philosophy should NOT be welcome on DU.