She married him because she is an idiot.

[IdaBriggs]

58. Perspective is everything: you saw me "attack the victim for standing up to her abuser."

Moriah, I did not. I reported a factual observation. She was in a survival moment of "Fight, Flight or Freeze" and she went for Fight.

So did he.

When a narrative is created about a "helpless victim" one has to ignore the facts. Fact: the two of them were bickering and bickering is not a punch worthy crime.

Fact: She was doing "playful" (?) back handed slaps while they were bickering, but again that does not justify the physical escalation of violence that occurred.

We don't know what they said to each other before all hell broke loose, and the bottom line is that I don't care:

NOTHING justified what happened in that elevator.

In the perfect world of Ida-In-Charge these two would be sent to a relationship concentration camp until they worked out their individual issues, dealt with the past trauma/drama they have created, and mastered some basic "how not to be in an abusive relationship" life skills. Unfortunately ( I do not rule the world, and the two of them seem to have settled in to "the real problem is that people won't leave us alone to work out our issues" mode.

At a certain point, a person has to take responsibilities for the choices they make, whether that be to stay or go.

She married the guy who punched her unconscious. He married the woman he punched unconscious.

“I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It's a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”

― Portia Nelson, There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/95085-i-walk-down-the-street-there-is-a-deep-hole