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salin

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52. Your two lines are not necessarily incompatible they made me think:

Thu Sep 11, 2014, 11:09 AM

Sep 2014

hazing - is often passed down in organizations by generations - as sort of a sick rites of passage.

It doesn't stop in part because earlier generations (those now perpetrating the hazing) think -
"I lived through it - so can you."

Not equating rape to hazing - but that mindset that allows it to perpetuate.

When I saw your post - it occurred to me maybe they (those in charge) don't give a shit - because they too lived through it - and like hazing view it ala
"I lived through it - so can you."

What a horrible thought - that this preponderance is so common and has been so common for generations. What a grotesque situation perpetuating life-changing trauma and then having it become a self-perpetuating, devastating cycle.

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“Son, Men Don’t Get Raped” [View all] KamaAina Sep 2014 OP

That's awful shenmue Sep 2014 #1

Watch this thread die a fast death. closeupready Sep 2014 #2

Let us hope not. KamaAina Sep 2014 #3

why? it needs to be heard and no reasonable roguevalley Sep 2014 #14

I think they were lamenting that it would die a quick death mythology Sep 2014 #39

ah. Okay. :D THanks. roguevalley Sep 2014 #41

I agree. In the past when threads on male-on-male rape started, closeupready Sep 2014 #47

Because female rape exists, male rape doesn't. Scott6113 Sep 2014 #56

Because prominent feminists on DU were leaders in the vocal protest against rape jokes KitSileya Sep 2014 #59

Unless it happens in prison, then it's funny Hugabear Sep 2014 #4

I have a friend who was a victim of male-on-male rape when he was 17. radicalliberal Sep 2014 #5

K&R LiberalLoner Sep 2014 #6

I'm not surprised Stargazer09 Sep 2014 #7

Rape culture gollygee Sep 2014 #8

I wish I could say I was surprised... Veilex Sep 2014 #33

K&R. No words. politicat Sep 2014 #9

Rape is a crime of violence and domination made all the more hideous by Half-Century Man Sep 2014 #10

I find it astonishing how little the US government and the military does to curtail this justiceischeap Sep 2014 #11

+1 La Lioness Priyanka Sep 2014 #13

Yes that is true. MindPilot Sep 2014 #19

K&R chervilant Sep 2014 #12

One would think the word "raped" would serve as such a warning KamaAina Sep 2014 #21

Not for the title. chervilant Sep 2014 #25

k/r 840high Sep 2014 #15

At least they lured him to a "remote" area of the ship. MindPilot Sep 2014 #16

Sorry to hear that... joeybee12 Sep 2014 #24

In the military, there often is no investigation. Worse yet, it is often flatly ignored... Veilex Sep 2014 #34

I am so sorry that happened to you. KitSileya Sep 2014 #44

My younger stepbrother was in the sea cadets arikara Sep 2014 #60

k and r--I read some of the personal accounts. one of many reasons there are days I believe the niyad Sep 2014 #17

K&R for visibility. nt TBF Sep 2014 #18

From the headnote to the linked article: tblue37 Sep 2014 #20

Men are far less likely to report it, so the real numbers are probablly much higher. MindPilot Sep 2014 #26

Your two lines are not necessarily incompatible they made me think: salin Sep 2014 #52

I have no words stage left Sep 2014 #22

I cannot even imagine, and to think those vile sick disgusting assholes more than likely AuntPatsy Sep 2014 #23

Rape is rape. It's the ultimate violent crime of humiliation and control Warpy Sep 2014 #27

"...I'd like to see the fucking military catch a clue. It's past due." Raster Sep 2014 #64

I would imagine Bettie Sep 2014 #28

K & R thucythucy Sep 2014 #29

K & R TDale313 Sep 2014 #30

That's terrible. I'm reading a book (The Alienist) where male-on-male rape happened to the mass Louisiana1976 Sep 2014 #31

Good book - I read it several years ago n/t TorchTheWitch Sep 2014 #42

Rape is Pandemic in the Military quarbis Sep 2014 #32

From a speech given by Andrea Dworkin. CrispyQ Sep 2014 #35

You quoted Andrea Dworkin? At DU? KamaAina Sep 2014 #38

K&R! smirkymonkey Sep 2014 #36

That isn't the problem. KitSileya Sep 2014 #45

Correct. The brass are the problem. The failure to report is the symptom. nt SunSeeker Sep 2014 #63

What a tragic situation... Earth_First Sep 2014 #37

K and R Stuart G Sep 2014 #40

The US Armed Forces is a rotten organization. KitSileya Sep 2014 #43

Kick, kick, kick!!! Heidi Sep 2014 #46

It bears repeating lapislzi Sep 2014 #48

^^^ THIS ^^^ KamaAina Sep 2014 #54

Males do get raped. Adults and children. riqster Sep 2014 #49

One can be raped by someone without a penis too. KitSileya Sep 2014 #61

That was heartbreaking ellie Sep 2014 #50

That was difficult to read A Little Weird Sep 2014 #51

That's awful ismnotwasm Sep 2014 #53

Shocking salin Sep 2014 #55

Thank you for posting this. Chan790 Sep 2014 #57

Its never about sex, its about power. nt flamin lib Sep 2014 #58

When the King County Rape Crisis Center was first founded, the staff immediately noticed-- eridani Sep 2014 #62