I was punched in the face as a kid by a stepfather

[BanzaiBonnie]

19. freshwest, I'm sorry that happened to you

I'm sorry you were failed by so many, including the bullshit from some who told you, you are good because it made you who you are.

You are a good person because you are a good person, not because you were beaten.


My mother is eighty and has only in the last few years shared that there were times she was beaten so badly by her father that she thought she was going to die. Her evaluation is that she is surprised that she didn't die. The beatings began at four years old. At that time, she was tasked with caring for four younger siblings: one three year old and a set of one year old twins. If the youngers, as they were called, did anything wrong, my mother would be beaten for it.

She's been medicated for years, for depression. And she's actually told me she doesn't know any reason she would have to be depressed. Gawd. It makes me feel sick to my stomach to know how she was treated.

We understand that the brain of the abused is forever altered and shaped by that abuse. I am thoroughly disgusted by some comments I've read on DU and I hold no truck with any of those who make the excuse that they were beaten as children and turned out fine.