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justiceischeap

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7. My childhood experiences

Reply to Are_grits_groceries (Original post)

Sun Sep 14, 2014, 06:07 AM

Sep 2014

I never experienced the switch, my dad was fond of the belt... and didn't care which end he used. He also liked smacking and he liked to verbally berate us--especially if he had a bad day at work. I agree with you grits, it didn't stop our behavior it just made us better at getting away with it.

However, I think the worst "punishment" I got from him was the day he found cigarettes in my room (I was 11 or 12). He had me lay across the bed, had his belt in hand and I was sure this was the worst beating of all the beatings. In the end, he asked if I was ready and I said yes... he barely tapped my ass with that belt and walked out.

Everything he did to me as a kid has stuck with me but that one, that one seemed the worst of all the actual beatings.

And all beatings or "punishments" don't leave marks that need to be treated by medical doctors but for some people they leave marks that need to be treated in therapy--I don't advocate it because fearing a parent is different from respecting a parent and I think if you respect a parent, you aren't going to do things to lose that respect.

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I was switched all the time as a kid. [View all] Are_grits_groceries Sep 2014 OP

Both are abuse, in my experience and opinion. Heidi Sep 2014 #1

I agree. Are_grits_groceries Sep 2014 #4

I know you weren't minimizing it. Heidi Sep 2014 #5

Being hit hard is very different from beiing hit until you have deep cuts and require medical merrily Sep 2014 #2

I disagree. Are_grits_groceries Sep 2014 #3

We see it differently. I think that kid's beating is different from the merrily Sep 2014 #6

Just a point of fact. Jenoch Sep 2014 #22

My childhood experiences justiceischeap Sep 2014 #7

And some mean that the adult child wants nothing to do with the parent ever again, pnwmom Sep 2014 #38

Of the several whippings I got growing up one stands out. TexasProgresive Sep 2014 #8

My sister cut the buttons off most of our father's jackets and pants... 4139 Sep 2014 #9

I got spankings and some switchings as a kid, but nothing that drew blood. MoonRiver Sep 2014 #10

You don't have the stick in your psyche, but, you mentioned HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #11

Oh I have no doubt that the switchings left Are_grits_groceries Sep 2014 #12

I think members of our society are vulnerable to discounting such things HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #13

I think you are right. Are_grits_groceries Sep 2014 #15

I was very devious a a kid HipChick Sep 2014 #14

What is happening in that little video? oberliner Sep 2014 #19

"Rob Ford looks at food" librechik Sep 2014 #41

I never understood Glitterati Sep 2014 #16

One that never made sense to me was, Le Taz Hot Sep 2014 #25

So were many of my friends malaise Sep 2014 #17

Which is one of the problems with interpreting violence from within a culture HereSince1628 Sep 2014 #20

That's a profound observation malaise Sep 2014 #23

Can relate to you about the "games" and mental cruelty oberliner Sep 2014 #18

If perfect strangers treated one another the way "loving" families act.... Paladin Sep 2014 #21

90% of the population of the 80"s and back would be in jail according to some on this board. Also Pisces Sep 2014 #24

Please, Le Taz Hot Sep 2014 #26

Here are 2 links, oh and what surprised me is that 90% still spank their kids today. Pisces Sep 2014 #27

Your claim was that, "90% of the population of the 80"s and back would be in jail according to some" Le Taz Hot Sep 2014 #31

Just curious Feral Child Sep 2014 #28

I am not defending spanking. How obtuse can some be. THere is a difference between abuse and Pisces Sep 2014 #29

Thanks for the link Feral Child Sep 2014 #33

If 90% do it phil89 Sep 2014 #35

and 10 percent of us (more really) say you don't know what the fuck you are talking about. CBGLuthier Sep 2014 #30

My mother did hit me LiberalElite Sep 2014 #32

I was never switched, RebelOne Sep 2014 #34

I got whipped a lot as a kid Spirochete Sep 2014 #36

parents didnt know better. now they should all know better and cut that crap out Liberal_in_LA Sep 2014 #37

My mom said her mother made them pick their own switches senseandsensibility Sep 2014 #39

Yeah :( BlindTiresias Sep 2014 #40