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In reply to the discussion: Okay, no spanking. I get that but what's this dad suppose to do? [View all]hlthe2b
(101,730 posts)Sorry, this just popped out at me. I surely don't have the answers and won't purport to, but it seems, perhaps, that there may have been a pattern of "endulging" the child and her tantrums over time that has led to the current situation. Certainly it has been my experience, both with children and pets (sorry, but at a certain age, behavioral training is not a whole lot different and a "time out" is appropriate for both during tantrums) that consistency is critical. I suspect at some point, at least one of the parents or care-givers may have been a bit less than consistent, in dealing with a tearful (and adorable) child... Letting a child get by with "refusing" to go to their room, rather than gently, but insistently, picking her up and carrying her to the room, has sent a real bad message.
I feel for you, though (and your neighbor)... That makes for a tough situation for you both and has to add to your own tension.
I hope some of the other parents here can offer more to you in terms of suggestions.