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In reply to the discussion: Okay, no spanking. I get that but what's this dad suppose to do? [View all]TexasMommaWithAHat
(3,212 posts)and eating calmly as a family. This would be a start to creating the family environment you desire.
If she is "normally" eating in front of the tv, that's a problem right there, imo. Eat with your children. Share their evening meal. Talk. Keep the conversation light, and don't nag about their table manners.
For the in the moment tantrums, pick her up and carry her to her room where you tell her that her behavior is not acceptable, and that she will have to sit on her bed (no toys) until her behavior and attitude improves. When she is ready to come out and apologize, she can come out.
Consistency is key, as you probably already know. What no one tells you, however, is how hard it is. When you're tired, the last thing you want is a prolonged 45 minute battle with an 8 year old, but, honestly, some kids don't outgrow this behavior, so it's best to nip it in the bud, now, while you still have some control over her. As she gets older, you won't have that control, but, instead, will have a sulking, mouthy, out of control 15 year old who will seem to relish making your family life miserable.