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In reply to the discussion: Okay, no spanking. I get that but what's this dad suppose to do? [View all]cali
(114,904 posts)25. striking a child is what you wish to avoid.
I had a high strung, high energy kid and yes, I had to physically place him in time out over and over again- though by 6 or seven he pretty much got that if he left the time out space, he'd be put back in it. And by eight, punishment was more taking away a privilege. I also used a lot of positive reinforcement. a chart where he could put a sticky each day that he did his chores and then he got a reward at the end of the week.
I don't think that physically placing a kid in time out sends a message that force is OK. I'm not suggesting you hold your child down and physically make her stay in time out.
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I don't know what I would have done, I know what I would not have done.
Warren Stupidity
Sep 2014
#78
Same here. Any screaming = no tv for 2 hours (young kids don't have a good idea of time
FSogol
Sep 2014
#12
I agree... Making a child take responsibility for their own behavior by apologizing to the neighbor
hlthe2b
Sep 2014
#17
My Mom would paddle me and my sister, but I never did that to my sons. (or had to)
FSogol
Sep 2014
#21
"How to Talk so Kids Will Listen" is the book my sisters and I used when our kids were young.
SalviaBlue
Sep 2014
#115
Great post, enlightenment. And you're right that this kind of response can take a long time,
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#46
Your parents were very unusual for their generation. You were lucky. And so were your children. n/t
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#62
Here's a book about validating that I think you might like. It's short and has plenty of examples.
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#49
Every kid is different, seaybeyond. I had a niece who was a screamer -- even at that age --
pnwmom
Sep 2014
#55
Yeah. I had some pretty good boundaries and they worked really great on 3 out of my 4 kids.
Arkansas Granny
Sep 2014
#69
To my eyes, your incident last night is the result of a lot of small bad decisions over the years.
Brickbat
Sep 2014
#37
She sounds like my kindergartener. I try to distract her and it sometimes works. I would like to
jwirr
Sep 2014
#40
lots of good suggestions here--and I wouldn't rule out filming or threatening to film it
zazen
Sep 2014
#48
LOL. Somebody has a sad. My theory: He had Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson on his fantasy team.
FSogol
Sep 2014
#79
Taking away privileges in the middle of a screaming fit is unlikely to work because
winter is coming
Sep 2014
#89
My original response has a know-it-all tone and I want to apologize for that. I'm wishing you
Brickbat
Sep 2014
#91
If I had to recommend a "parenting manual" to anyone, it'd probably be that Parent Survival Training
moriah
Sep 2014
#93
MOST if not all of these solutions STILL.. STILL require something "physical" to happen...
uponit7771
Sep 2014
#97
What should you do? Let your kids play minecraft sometimes. No, Seriously.
Warren DeMontague
Sep 2014
#127