The issue about hitting kids has always been an easy one for me.

[seabeyond]

51. everything about hitting to punish or teach is contradictive to what i teach my boys in life.

how silly would it be for me to implement, while sabotaging all the work n lifei lessons.

and it does not work. is not effective. and does not give the boys tools to resolve issues, like the much more consuming disciplines in other manners. thinking thru, making good choices cause of reward/repercussion, personal responsibility.

my parents did the belt. rarely. they were not angry doing it. it was reasoned. i was not abuse. and i do not look poorly at them. that was their learned way, and at that time, they were clueless of any other ways.

i was much older with kids. my mom told me, before she died, she wish.... she wish she had parented like i did.

a whole lot of reasons that is an unreasonable wish. she was 20. with three. in three years. poor (stress). and in the 60's,

i was in 30's. financially secure with two spread out and a hubby that had a big hand in parenting, in the late 90's