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In reply to the discussion: Okay, no spanking. I get that but what's this dad suppose to do? [View all]avebury
(10,952 posts)"Normally, we let her eat on the coffee table in the family room in front of the television"
"But when my kid is acting up like this, what am I suppose to do? Reasoning didn't work; telling her to go to her room and calm down didn't work (she refused); ignoring her didn't work (she just kept yelling and screaming); taking away her television privileges didn't work (she didn't care). Just what is a dad suppose to do?"
It sounds like the first step you need to take is to take back control of your own home and if this behavior has been going on her entire life then this is something that you should have done a long time ago. It is going to be hell on earth to straighten out this situation now. You are the parent and the children should not believe that they live in a democracy at their age. You just need to toughen up and deal with it. You might consider investing in some really good noise dampening devices (with maybe some for the neighbors). I don't give a fig how much a child is going to scream and yell, hell will have a better chance of freezing over before I cave into the demands of an under aged tyrant. You might try talking to the neighbor and explaining the situation and what steps that you are taking to try to improve the situation (while gifting them with the ear plugs). If I were your neighbor and knew that you were taking steps to tough it out, outlast the tamper tantrums and hopefully get across to the child that bad behavior is not going to be rewarded I would probably cut you some slack during that period. Talking to a child psychologist might give you some good pointers in dealing with your daughter.
You might want to consider this: Failure on your part to develop a plan to bring the situation under control (if it is an ongoing problem) does bring with it a risk that your neighbor might. at some point, end up calling the police on you. At some point, your neighbor might reach the breaking point.