Anyone who claims that the NFL has less 'domestic abuse' than the general population [View all]

[lunatica]

Is either lying or stupid. And anyone who claims it's a "Black" thing is also wrong. And anyone judging the women for not leaving and therefore implying that the women somehow have only themselves to blame is also wrong.

My son's father was and is what every single person who he's ever met believes is a true gentleman, a kind person, and wonderful catch for me and a stroke of luck for my son. People used to tell me how lucky I was even as he was beating me behind closed doors and he was telling me that if I ever left him he would kill my mother and take my son away.

It was so bad that I ended up running away and abducting my toddler son because eventually he would abuse him as soon as he could. Once I shoved his arm away as he was raising it to hit my son who hadn't yet learned how to walk on his own, because my son wouldn't go to sleep. Needless to say I got the beating instead. Once he came home drunk with a gun and waved it in my face telling me he would kill me. When he passed out I took the bullets out of the gun and hid them on the back side of my painting. I took the gun and jammed it under the kitchen sink between the sink and the vanity. He never found the gun and it's probably still where I put it. But if he had I would probably be dead. Why wouldn't I believe his threats when he screamed them at me while punching and kicking me? These examples are only two out of many, many beatings.

When the opportunity presented itself I took my son and left the country because that was the only way I knew I could protect my son from ever being abused by him. My family helped me when I finally told them what was happening. I had kept silent because I believed he would kill them. He had convinced me completely because I had first hand experience on what he was capable of.

My point is that the few domestic abusers we know about is most likely only the tip of the iceberg. How many times have we heard how shocked everyone is that these outstanding men actually beat their wives and kids. Fooling everyone is how they get away with it because they're convinced they know the men intimately. They don't know shit.