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bettyellen

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31. wow, this post had an alert- thank god they can't alert for another day but....

Mon Oct 6, 2014, 02:06 PM

Oct 2014

I really think they could use a permanent time out. Seriously.

On Mon Oct 6, 2014, 02:56 PM an alert was sent on the following post:

i attended a wedding where the rev spoke the "wife obey the husband" bullshit
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5628604

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You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Mon Oct 6, 2014, 03:02 PM, and the Jury voted 0-7 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: I see nothing wrong with this post.
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: This alert is lame.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Who the hell alerted on this and why? This alert will go to the Admins. Only a rabid sexist would disagree the "obey" part required of women in he old marriage vows is anything but bullshit.
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Quite possibly the worst alert ever. Not that it would have probably changed my mind, but I would have liked for the alerter to explain what they found so bad here they felt an alert was necessary.
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Explanation: god said-man said dot com?? LoL! leave it.

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Duggar Bride To Other Young Brides: Your Wedding Day Belongs To Holy God Up In Heaven, Not You [View all] big_dog Oct 2014 OP

I once attended a wedding SheilaT Oct 2014 #1

i attended a wedding where the rev spoke the "wife obey the husband" bullshit Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #16

wow, this post had an alert- thank god they can't alert for another day but.... bettyellen Oct 2014 #31

I was Juror #4 reflection Oct 2014 #32

I was #3, and sent my email to the Admins. And encourage you to do the same. bettyellen Oct 2014 #36

been searching for the link. reflection Oct 2014 #38

so glad you asked- open the email with jury results- on the bottom left corner there is an alert bettyellen Oct 2014 #87

Thanks! reflection Oct 2014 #90

Anytime! bettyellen Oct 2014 #93

alerter might havebeen guy who hadhis wife speak that obey bullshit Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #43

wow. glad i got 100% support. Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #41

I would have been absolutely shocked if you didn't have malaise Oct 2014 #46

me too... kinda.. this is DU. lol Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #115

I printed Donna's immortal words on the cover of our wedding invitations. hobbit709 Oct 2014 #76

Love it!!!! calimary Oct 2014 #112

lol Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #116

I can't believe that post was alerted on. m-lekktor Oct 2014 #95

LOL, maybe one of the Duggars is a member here and took exception to the post... Spazito Oct 2014 #56

wow. someone was offended by that post? m-lekktor Oct 2014 #94

I went to a Catholic wedding where they read the crap about the rib and wimmins as helpmates. Arugula Latte Oct 2014 #67

A friend attended a Jehovas Witness wedding - it was explained to the husband that Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #114

I got married in a Presbyterian church. We chose a service that didn't have that line in it. woodsprite Oct 2014 #80

I went to a wedding like that. Initech Oct 2014 #23

But did it sound like the bride was also marrying Jesus? SheilaT Oct 2014 #26

Well Jesus was mentioned about 200 times in the two hour ceremony. Initech Oct 2014 #29

Unlimited Open Bar is an option that was invented for weddings like that. smirkymonkey Oct 2014 #75

True that! Initech Oct 2014 #84

My cousin's wedding was like that Bettie Oct 2014 #68

My dad is dead leftynyc Oct 2014 #2

Then the man would ask your grandfather, or uncle or older brother bluestateguy Oct 2014 #12

Hmmmm leftynyc Oct 2014 #25

Then a distant male relative. bravenak Oct 2014 #30

I have some male cousins leftynyc Oct 2014 #44

You mean, Live On Your Own? bravenak Oct 2014 #45

Amazing I've made it this long leftynyc Oct 2014 #47

They are trained better than my mothers dogs. bravenak Oct 2014 #52

I think it's abusive parenting leftynyc Oct 2014 #53

Me too. bravenak Oct 2014 #54

Well, once her own quiver starts filling up she will get to make all the life decisions for tblue37 Oct 2014 #78

Nope, it will be her husband making the life decisions... Spazito Oct 2014 #79

I feel for those kids. bravenak Oct 2014 #83

Come visit me up north in the Adirondacks! Scruffy Rumbler Oct 2014 #134

I guess you're SOL. hifiguy Oct 2014 #13

If her wedding day belongs to God... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2014 #3

Their logic is, shall we say, hifiguy Oct 2014 #14

They sure are stressing the point that they think young women should not logosoco Oct 2014 #21

Should have PasadenaTrudy Oct 2014 #66

God is very bad with money. Marr Oct 2014 #91

And does God pay for everything? smirkymonkey Oct 2014 #77

Sooner or later reality is going to slap these idiots upside the head. Archae Oct 2014 #4

Once the show is cancelled, probably n/t arcane1 Oct 2014 #11

So when she is getting the nasty on during her wedding night, screaming OH GOD OH GOD snooper2 Oct 2014 #5

.. SammyWinstonJack Oct 2014 #9

You're assuming she's going to "get the nasty on" jmowreader Oct 2014 #42

in their world big_dog Oct 2014 #50

They become Professional Grandparents jmowreader Oct 2014 #55

The official fundie answer: Sarah had Issac when she was in her 80's. LeftyMom Oct 2014 #121

They seem to do it a lot, though ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #62

not true, the reason they get married so early is partly so they CAN start having sex JI7 Oct 2014 #72

You obviously didn't see the Josh Duggar wedding episode tabbycat31 Oct 2014 #109

Which begs the question dflprincess Oct 2014 #118

Clip of Josh Duggar's awkward first kiss in this slideshow tabbycat31 Oct 2014 #133

they were raised to be babymakers pstokely Oct 2014 #131

Yeah, but they also think that abstaining in marriage is a sin, LeftyMom Oct 2014 #120

Please ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #61

See what I mean about Conservative Christian (or any fundamentalist sect) Homeschool? bravenak Oct 2014 #6

I'm shocked to see child molestation brought up when discussing fundies. Shocked!! arcane1 Oct 2014 #7

I will not, ever, ever, ever even think of ever, ever getting married to somebody like that. BlueJazz Oct 2014 #8

These girls have been trained well. My guess is that they can't make any decisions for themselves. Arkansas Granny Oct 2014 #10

almost like stockholm syndrome big_dog Oct 2014 #15

I'm guessing more "Stepford Wives" syndrome. Initech Oct 2014 #19

That funsie Duck Dynasty patriarch said men should marry girls really young so the husband can tblue37 Oct 2014 #81

Almost like Stockholm Syndrome, but we aren't in Stockholm any more Toto. davidpdx Oct 2014 #126

So they're saying it's perfectly OK to be blind and submissive? Initech Oct 2014 #17

I shared open and honest with my boyfriend/husband when we first started dating... Tikki Oct 2014 #18

In a general sense, yeah, don't enter into marriage lightly gratuitous Oct 2014 #20

God convinced her that making your own decisions is prideful hedda_foil Oct 2014 #22

But making decisions FOR your grown daughters is not prideful? Lydia Leftcoast Oct 2014 #74

Ok. We are fighting marriage equality in our country yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #24

I am not disgusted; she says she is counseling young women...I just wonder if she mentions that many Tikki Oct 2014 #34

I don't see anyone in this thread RedCappedBandit Oct 2014 #35

Sorry! Went off the handle a bit. yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #64

Uh huh.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #63

Your right! yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #65

So you never reply to things you don't agree with? Riiiigggghhhttt. Rex Oct 2014 #69

Well I am an expert on fighting for marriage equality yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #71

You complain just as much as the next person does about something you don't like. Rex Oct 2014 #73

Why are you being so mean? yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #101

I'm not, just asking you a question. Don't we all reply to things we don't like? Rex Oct 2014 #102

We do but on a marriage for all thread? yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #103

I think in this thread we see people complaining more about religion than marriage. Rex Oct 2014 #105

Well that is true! yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #106

Me too, so much to talk about and learn about on DU. Rex Oct 2014 #107

Are we trying to STOP these religious whack jobs from marrying? NO. That's the difference. Arugula Latte Oct 2014 #70

OK, let the church pay the bills. lpbk2713 Oct 2014 #27

That was my first thought. hunter Oct 2014 #59

Maybe Jesus will bring the wine for the reception? dflprincess Oct 2014 #119

Just wait for God himself to pay up. And let God handle all the arrangements... Silent3 Oct 2014 #132

Can't let a woman dream, even for one day, that she is not the property of men. Orsino Oct 2014 #28

It will be along the lines of "Woman should endure sex only in order to be a baby vessel." Ikonoklast Oct 2014 #48

A woman with that kind of mindset told me I wasn't 'really married.' PDJane Oct 2014 #33

She doesn't know about states with common-law marriage, does she? Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2014 #98

God's wife made him say that. Tierra_y_Libertad Oct 2014 #37

Then she's OK with God getting all the presents? (n/t) Retrograde Oct 2014 #39

God's bigger issues to worry about Capt. Obvious Oct 2014 #40

Cultists will be cultists get the red out Oct 2014 #49

Reality shows are the new version of the Freak Show at the circus, that's why Hekate Oct 2014 #125

Spot on! get the red out Oct 2014 #127

:), LPBK. But I agree with Yeoman. This is highly principled and appropriate for some, and I wish Hortensis Oct 2014 #51

I know a few people like that YarnAddict Oct 2014 #60

They also believe that you're not supposed to be attracted to your mate, but "God shining through Erose999 Oct 2014 #57

Well, that notion goes straight back to the discussion of love in tblue37 Oct 2014 #85

next reality show greymattermom Oct 2014 #58

Or how about "Keeping up with the Khristian Kardashians"? smirkymonkey Oct 2014 #82

So what, let them believe what they want Packerowner740 Oct 2014 #86

yeah, who cares about the girls growing up being fed this bullshit if it doesn't effect you! bettyellen Oct 2014 #88

Not me Packerowner740 Oct 2014 #89

likely their parents and communities are the ones feeding them this bulllshit. bettyellen Oct 2014 #92

And you opinion is any better than mine? Packerowner740 Oct 2014 #135

my capacity for empathy certainly is, LOL. but you go own with your bad self, posting "who cares" bettyellen Oct 2014 #136

Girls? Shankapotomus Oct 2014 #137

yes, girls..... you think this shit started when they were adults, LOL. bettyellen Oct 2014 #138

Yet another WTF! ... I was at a wedding once and some girl told me god arranges ALL of the RKP5637 Oct 2014 #96

This family is crazy Gothmog Oct 2014 #97

It's kind of like watching a train wreck dhol82 Oct 2014 #110

Mrs. Aristus and I made sure the pastor omitted the "obey" part. Aristus Oct 2014 #99

ok... GummyBearz Oct 2014 #100

The Young Nun (Die Junge Nonne) by Franz Schubert Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2014 #104

Enjoy your narrow, blinkered, and fearful life! hatrack Oct 2014 #108

Some of these Duggar kids are bound to be wheniwasincongress Oct 2014 #111

who gives a flying rip about the duggqars demtenjeep Oct 2014 #113

Other brides to Duggar bride: Make 7... muntrv Oct 2014 #117

pathetic Skittles Oct 2014 #122

Just lie back and think of England, dearie. Hekate Oct 2014 #123

Would love her to say that to a group of Bridezillas! Marrah_G Oct 2014 #124

Those planet-killing sociopaths ought to be deported to an island-- eridani Oct 2014 #128

Submission! Submission! Submission! Warren DeMontague Oct 2014 #129

*gives the finger to God* sakabatou Oct 2014 #130