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72. not true, the reason they get married so early is partly so they CAN start having sex

Mon Oct 6, 2014, 03:58 PM

Oct 2014

without going against what they preach.

most normal people would be fine just having sex when they want without feeling they are doing anything wrong by not being married or anything else.

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Duggar Bride To Other Young Brides: Your Wedding Day Belongs To Holy God Up In Heaven, Not You [View all] big_dog Oct 2014 OP

I once attended a wedding SheilaT Oct 2014 #1

i attended a wedding where the rev spoke the "wife obey the husband" bullshit Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #16

wow, this post had an alert- thank god they can't alert for another day but.... bettyellen Oct 2014 #31

I was Juror #4 reflection Oct 2014 #32

I was #3, and sent my email to the Admins. And encourage you to do the same. bettyellen Oct 2014 #36

been searching for the link. reflection Oct 2014 #38

so glad you asked- open the email with jury results- on the bottom left corner there is an alert bettyellen Oct 2014 #87

Thanks! reflection Oct 2014 #90

Anytime! bettyellen Oct 2014 #93

alerter might havebeen guy who hadhis wife speak that obey bullshit Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #43

wow. glad i got 100% support. Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #41

I would have been absolutely shocked if you didn't have malaise Oct 2014 #46

me too... kinda.. this is DU. lol Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #115

I printed Donna's immortal words on the cover of our wedding invitations. hobbit709 Oct 2014 #76

Love it!!!! calimary Oct 2014 #112

lol Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #116

I can't believe that post was alerted on. m-lekktor Oct 2014 #95

LOL, maybe one of the Duggars is a member here and took exception to the post... Spazito Oct 2014 #56

wow. someone was offended by that post? m-lekktor Oct 2014 #94

I went to a Catholic wedding where they read the crap about the rib and wimmins as helpmates. Arugula Latte Oct 2014 #67

A friend attended a Jehovas Witness wedding - it was explained to the husband that Liberal_in_LA Oct 2014 #114

I got married in a Presbyterian church. We chose a service that didn't have that line in it. woodsprite Oct 2014 #80

I went to a wedding like that. Initech Oct 2014 #23

But did it sound like the bride was also marrying Jesus? SheilaT Oct 2014 #26

Well Jesus was mentioned about 200 times in the two hour ceremony. Initech Oct 2014 #29

Unlimited Open Bar is an option that was invented for weddings like that. smirkymonkey Oct 2014 #75

True that! Initech Oct 2014 #84

My cousin's wedding was like that Bettie Oct 2014 #68

My dad is dead leftynyc Oct 2014 #2

Then the man would ask your grandfather, or uncle or older brother bluestateguy Oct 2014 #12

Hmmmm leftynyc Oct 2014 #25

Then a distant male relative. bravenak Oct 2014 #30

I have some male cousins leftynyc Oct 2014 #44

You mean, Live On Your Own? bravenak Oct 2014 #45

Amazing I've made it this long leftynyc Oct 2014 #47

They are trained better than my mothers dogs. bravenak Oct 2014 #52

I think it's abusive parenting leftynyc Oct 2014 #53

Me too. bravenak Oct 2014 #54

Well, once her own quiver starts filling up she will get to make all the life decisions for tblue37 Oct 2014 #78

Nope, it will be her husband making the life decisions... Spazito Oct 2014 #79

I feel for those kids. bravenak Oct 2014 #83

Come visit me up north in the Adirondacks! Scruffy Rumbler Oct 2014 #134

I guess you're SOL. hifiguy Oct 2014 #13

If her wedding day belongs to God... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2014 #3

Their logic is, shall we say, hifiguy Oct 2014 #14

They sure are stressing the point that they think young women should not logosoco Oct 2014 #21

Should have PasadenaTrudy Oct 2014 #66

God is very bad with money. Marr Oct 2014 #91

And does God pay for everything? smirkymonkey Oct 2014 #77

Sooner or later reality is going to slap these idiots upside the head. Archae Oct 2014 #4

Once the show is cancelled, probably n/t arcane1 Oct 2014 #11

So when she is getting the nasty on during her wedding night, screaming OH GOD OH GOD snooper2 Oct 2014 #5

.. SammyWinstonJack Oct 2014 #9

You're assuming she's going to "get the nasty on" jmowreader Oct 2014 #42

in their world big_dog Oct 2014 #50

They become Professional Grandparents jmowreader Oct 2014 #55

The official fundie answer: Sarah had Issac when she was in her 80's. LeftyMom Oct 2014 #121

They seem to do it a lot, though ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #62

not true, the reason they get married so early is partly so they CAN start having sex JI7 Oct 2014 #72

You obviously didn't see the Josh Duggar wedding episode tabbycat31 Oct 2014 #109

Which begs the question dflprincess Oct 2014 #118

Clip of Josh Duggar's awkward first kiss in this slideshow tabbycat31 Oct 2014 #133

they were raised to be babymakers pstokely Oct 2014 #131

Yeah, but they also think that abstaining in marriage is a sin, LeftyMom Oct 2014 #120

Please ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #61

See what I mean about Conservative Christian (or any fundamentalist sect) Homeschool? bravenak Oct 2014 #6

I'm shocked to see child molestation brought up when discussing fundies. Shocked!! arcane1 Oct 2014 #7

I will not, ever, ever, ever even think of ever, ever getting married to somebody like that. BlueJazz Oct 2014 #8

These girls have been trained well. My guess is that they can't make any decisions for themselves. Arkansas Granny Oct 2014 #10

almost like stockholm syndrome big_dog Oct 2014 #15

I'm guessing more "Stepford Wives" syndrome. Initech Oct 2014 #19

That funsie Duck Dynasty patriarch said men should marry girls really young so the husband can tblue37 Oct 2014 #81

Almost like Stockholm Syndrome, but we aren't in Stockholm any more Toto. davidpdx Oct 2014 #126

So they're saying it's perfectly OK to be blind and submissive? Initech Oct 2014 #17

I shared open and honest with my boyfriend/husband when we first started dating... Tikki Oct 2014 #18

In a general sense, yeah, don't enter into marriage lightly gratuitous Oct 2014 #20

God convinced her that making your own decisions is prideful hedda_foil Oct 2014 #22

But making decisions FOR your grown daughters is not prideful? Lydia Leftcoast Oct 2014 #74

Ok. We are fighting marriage equality in our country yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #24

I am not disgusted; she says she is counseling young women...I just wonder if she mentions that many Tikki Oct 2014 #34

I don't see anyone in this thread RedCappedBandit Oct 2014 #35

Sorry! Went off the handle a bit. yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #64

Uh huh.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #63

Your right! yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #65

So you never reply to things you don't agree with? Riiiigggghhhttt. Rex Oct 2014 #69

Well I am an expert on fighting for marriage equality yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #71

You complain just as much as the next person does about something you don't like. Rex Oct 2014 #73

Why are you being so mean? yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #101

I'm not, just asking you a question. Don't we all reply to things we don't like? Rex Oct 2014 #102

We do but on a marriage for all thread? yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #103

I think in this thread we see people complaining more about religion than marriage. Rex Oct 2014 #105

Well that is true! yeoman6987 Oct 2014 #106

Me too, so much to talk about and learn about on DU. Rex Oct 2014 #107

Are we trying to STOP these religious whack jobs from marrying? NO. That's the difference. Arugula Latte Oct 2014 #70

OK, let the church pay the bills. lpbk2713 Oct 2014 #27

That was my first thought. hunter Oct 2014 #59

Maybe Jesus will bring the wine for the reception? dflprincess Oct 2014 #119

Just wait for God himself to pay up. And let God handle all the arrangements... Silent3 Oct 2014 #132

Can't let a woman dream, even for one day, that she is not the property of men. Orsino Oct 2014 #28

It will be along the lines of "Woman should endure sex only in order to be a baby vessel." Ikonoklast Oct 2014 #48

A woman with that kind of mindset told me I wasn't 'really married.' PDJane Oct 2014 #33

She doesn't know about states with common-law marriage, does she? Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2014 #98

God's wife made him say that. Tierra_y_Libertad Oct 2014 #37

Then she's OK with God getting all the presents? (n/t) Retrograde Oct 2014 #39

God's bigger issues to worry about Capt. Obvious Oct 2014 #40

Cultists will be cultists get the red out Oct 2014 #49

Reality shows are the new version of the Freak Show at the circus, that's why Hekate Oct 2014 #125

Spot on! get the red out Oct 2014 #127

:), LPBK. But I agree with Yeoman. This is highly principled and appropriate for some, and I wish Hortensis Oct 2014 #51

I know a few people like that YarnAddict Oct 2014 #60

They also believe that you're not supposed to be attracted to your mate, but "God shining through Erose999 Oct 2014 #57

Well, that notion goes straight back to the discussion of love in tblue37 Oct 2014 #85

next reality show greymattermom Oct 2014 #58

Or how about "Keeping up with the Khristian Kardashians"? smirkymonkey Oct 2014 #82

So what, let them believe what they want Packerowner740 Oct 2014 #86

yeah, who cares about the girls growing up being fed this bullshit if it doesn't effect you! bettyellen Oct 2014 #88

Not me Packerowner740 Oct 2014 #89

likely their parents and communities are the ones feeding them this bulllshit. bettyellen Oct 2014 #92

And you opinion is any better than mine? Packerowner740 Oct 2014 #135

my capacity for empathy certainly is, LOL. but you go own with your bad self, posting "who cares" bettyellen Oct 2014 #136

Girls? Shankapotomus Oct 2014 #137

yes, girls..... you think this shit started when they were adults, LOL. bettyellen Oct 2014 #138

Yet another WTF! ... I was at a wedding once and some girl told me god arranges ALL of the RKP5637 Oct 2014 #96

This family is crazy Gothmog Oct 2014 #97

It's kind of like watching a train wreck dhol82 Oct 2014 #110

Mrs. Aristus and I made sure the pastor omitted the "obey" part. Aristus Oct 2014 #99

ok... GummyBearz Oct 2014 #100

The Young Nun (Die Junge Nonne) by Franz Schubert Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2014 #104

Enjoy your narrow, blinkered, and fearful life! hatrack Oct 2014 #108

Some of these Duggar kids are bound to be wheniwasincongress Oct 2014 #111

who gives a flying rip about the duggqars demtenjeep Oct 2014 #113

Other brides to Duggar bride: Make 7... muntrv Oct 2014 #117

pathetic Skittles Oct 2014 #122

Just lie back and think of England, dearie. Hekate Oct 2014 #123

Would love her to say that to a group of Bridezillas! Marrah_G Oct 2014 #124

Those planet-killing sociopaths ought to be deported to an island-- eridani Oct 2014 #128

Submission! Submission! Submission! Warren DeMontague Oct 2014 #129

*gives the finger to God* sakabatou Oct 2014 #130