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Seeking Serenity

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4. I have a good friend, single not surprisingly,

Reply to dawg (Reply #1)

Tue Nov 25, 2014, 04:20 PM

Nov 2014

who can and does in the same breath bemoan and condemn the rigid gender roles you referred to and then complain about men she goes out with who too emotional or too in touch with their feelings or similar complaints and wants to know where the "real" men are. I think what she really wants is for women to be freed from traditional gender roles but not men. She won't say that, though.

Women have to face some tough choices. We can't advocate for the breaking down of traditional gender roles and then complain about "whiny men," or use phrases like "man up," and the like.

How my friend doesn't go deaf from the cognitive dissonance is beyond me.

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