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davidn3600

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10. A lot of women seem to struggle with this
Tue Nov 25, 2014, 04:50 PM
Nov 2014

They dont seem to understand that men are trapped in gender roles too. And a lot of feminists don't even recognize that it's a issue that is a direct barrier to their goals of equality.

Even feminists here have gotten angry at me when I said in here a few weeks ago that women have certain social expectations/demands of men. They thought it was a joke to suggest that women make demands of men. Apparently it's wrong for men to make sexist demands of women, but perfectly acceptable for women to keep men locked in gender roles. That's the mentality I get from a lot of women, including feminists.

That's called having your cake and eating it too. You'll never, ever achieve true gender equality that way.

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Fear of looking weak or "unmanly" prevents many men from seeking help. dawg Nov 2014 #1
Yeah. Once when my ex-wife left bruises and bite marks on my body, I thought about reporting villager Nov 2014 #3
Sorry you had to go through all of that. dawg Nov 2014 #7
Been there with the bruises and bite marks! Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #13
Man, I just replied to your post downthread! villager Nov 2014 #16
Thank you, Brother. Im stuggling to type this. Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #17
Take care, and travel well. villager Nov 2014 #19
I have a good friend, single not surprisingly, Seeking Serenity Nov 2014 #4
You've hit on something that I really think about a lot. dawg Nov 2014 #6
I'm gonna be honest here Seeking Serenity Nov 2014 #8
That's how these attitudes get changed - one person, or couple, at a time. dawg Nov 2014 #12
A lot of women seem to struggle with this davidn3600 Nov 2014 #10
A lot about the gender role breakdown is still a one-way street... villager Nov 2014 #11
It does take a little effort to get that point across davidn3600 Nov 2014 #20
DV is wrong, no matter the genders of those involved. uppityperson Nov 2014 #2
I have an uncle and a male cousin who are both married to abusive spouses. Ykcutnek Nov 2014 #5
Thanks for posting. I am a male victim of a wife with... Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #9
My Ex didn't get any treatment for her own "bipolarity" until after our marriage collapsed. villager Nov 2014 #14
Thanks Villager!-nt Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #15
Yep: "Patriarchy doesn’t just punish women." cyberswede Nov 2014 #18
Sadly, all too common. Behind the Aegis Nov 2014 #21
For some reason, BtA, I'd always hoped GL relationships could at least get past the "usual" villager Dec 2014 #22
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