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villager

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11. A lot about the gender role breakdown is still a one-way street...

Reply to davidn3600 (Reply #10)

Tue Nov 25, 2014, 03:54 PM

Nov 2014

I have a friend who makes this part of his stand-up act: i.e., "no, you be sure to bring home a paycheck, insure the roof and groceries are here, and I'll be the one exploring how to 'be free...,'" etc.

In my own experience, the Ex-wife always complained I was "wanking" whenever I tried to talk about feelings with her...

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Men still hidden as victims of violence in the home [View all] grahamhgreen Nov 2014 OP

Fear of looking weak or "unmanly" prevents many men from seeking help. dawg Nov 2014 #1

Yeah. Once when my ex-wife left bruises and bite marks on my body, I thought about reporting villager Nov 2014 #3

Sorry you had to go through all of that. dawg Nov 2014 #7

Been there with the bruises and bite marks! Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #13

Man, I just replied to your post downthread! villager Nov 2014 #16

Thank you, Brother. Im stuggling to type this. Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #17

Take care, and travel well. villager Nov 2014 #19

I have a good friend, single not surprisingly, Seeking Serenity Nov 2014 #4

You've hit on something that I really think about a lot. dawg Nov 2014 #6

I'm gonna be honest here Seeking Serenity Nov 2014 #8

That's how these attitudes get changed - one person, or couple, at a time. dawg Nov 2014 #12

A lot of women seem to struggle with this davidn3600 Nov 2014 #10

A lot about the gender role breakdown is still a one-way street... villager Nov 2014 #11

It does take a little effort to get that point across davidn3600 Nov 2014 #20

DV is wrong, no matter the genders of those involved. uppityperson Nov 2014 #2

I have an uncle and a male cousin who are both married to abusive spouses. Ykcutnek Nov 2014 #5

Thanks for posting. I am a male victim of a wife with... Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #9

My Ex didn't get any treatment for her own "bipolarity" until after our marriage collapsed. villager Nov 2014 #14

Thanks Villager!-nt Anansi1171 Nov 2014 #15

Yep: "Patriarchy doesn’t just punish women." cyberswede Nov 2014 #18

Sadly, all too common. Behind the Aegis Nov 2014 #21

For some reason, BtA, I'd always hoped GL relationships could at least get past the "usual" villager Dec 2014 #22