Men still hidden as victims of violence in the home

[villager]

16. Man, I just replied to your post downthread!

Seems we've been down a similar road. The incident with the kicking and bite marks was in front of our kids, too, particularly our eldest -- who was a grade-schooler then.

He's an absolutely wonderful young man, but has yet to have a steady girlfriend. Sadly, I think he's wary of "dangerously crazy women," from what he witnessed, and I hope he's able to open up, and trust someone enough to be a partner, at some point.

The fact that his own relationship with his mother seems to be mending -- to give her credit, she's become slowly, steadily, more "integrated" over the years -- is hopefully a good sign in this regard.

Meanwhile, you're still going through all this, and it can absolutely be hellish. Still recounting the nights I had to spend no just on our couch, but on friends' couches, when the rage in our house had spun out of control.

have you thought of 12-Step groups as a starting point? I've used CODA -- the "Codependents Anonymous" one, to start to get a grip on my own "script," and enmeshment, in relationships I've had.