Men still hidden as victims of violence in the home

[Behind the Aegis]

21. Sadly, all too common.

Another problem is abuse in GL relationships. Sadly, our community doesn't often talk about it and can be quite nasty toward the victims. I still don't fully understand why it is so. One would think with the abuse many of us grew up with, we wouldn't tolerate it in others from our own community. Mine was emotional abuse and no one believed me, until one day, one of my best friend watched it play out. She was not pleased.

I have known more than a few straight men in abusive relationships. Most were emotional, a few were physical. To my knowledge, none ever reported it or sought help. Men can be beaten down too, and sadly, most people respond with "man up!"