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74. And - as an adult who works with kids....

Sat Dec 6, 2014, 02:51 PM

Dec 2014

I truly do have a zero tolerance bullying policy. Of all of my kid's "issues" - this is one that just irks me beyond belief bc it's so unnecessary and 9x out of 10 is just exacerbating the kid's real and unavoidable "issues" - ie depression, anxiety, etc. And, when I'm working with a kid and they are struggling and trying to survive and then some other asshole kid comes in and makes it worse - I just have no patience for that at all. It is something I handle swiftly - with no hesitation - bc life is hard enough for my kids without that added bs. And, usually, the bully kid either is like the boy I mentioned above, OR, they come from a home that condones bullying. Grrrr.

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boy, 12, kills himself after 'he was bullied [View all] Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 OP

God, I hate these stories BeyondGeography Dec 2014 #1

Same here, BeyondGeography. Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #3

And I am glad you persevered BeyondGeography Dec 2014 #7

Same here. PsychGrad Dec 2014 #52

And individuals like that VP BeyondGeography Dec 2014 #57

Agreed. PsychGrad Dec 2014 #60

Most school admins are cowards who would be too terrified of angering that boy's parents. Odin2005 Dec 2014 #63

Oh, narnian60 Dec 2014 #69

And those same shitty parents blame the teachers' unions for schools going to shit. Odin2005 Dec 2014 #71

Agreed. PsychGrad Dec 2014 #73

And - as an adult who works with kids.... PsychGrad Dec 2014 #74

He's not in "a safe place." He's fucking DEAD. jmowreader Dec 2014 #67

Yeah, probably right BeyondGeography Dec 2014 #68

Well said. narnian60 Dec 2014 #70

... Mnemosyne Dec 2014 #2

.... Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #4

I'd say it depends on how he died before we can say if he killed himself or not. randome Dec 2014 #5

The police seem to be treating it that way. Throd Dec 2014 #6

Those were just the means to finish the job.... daleanime Dec 2014 #44

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I just wish these kids would be protected from the monsters who drive them to do such things. nt Ykcutnek Dec 2014 #10

It begins in the home. Kids hear, see and learn how to be monsters at home...i don't care what the kelliekat44 Dec 2014 #66

Are we seeing an uptick, or are we just seeing more of what's always been happening? Posteritatis Dec 2014 #14

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I sometimes wonder if there was one in my town when I was about that age Posteritatis Dec 2014 #24

I agree.. whathehell Dec 2014 #54

We're seeing an uptick in reporting on bullying-related suicides jeff47 Dec 2014 #15

I just wish ALL people would hold BULLIES responsible for their behavior, chervilant Dec 2014 #42

I had just moved to a new community after three years in Europe… regnaD kciN Dec 2014 #53

What would be nice is if a young person didn't have to excel in sports to be "popular" Fumesucker Dec 2014 #65

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I have a friend here in Georgia, RebelOne Dec 2014 #9

i think social media is making it worse for some JI7 Dec 2014 #11

5 years is an eternity to them. jeff47 Dec 2014 #19

Yep. To a twelve-year-old, five years would be about half of their full life's memories Posteritatis Dec 2014 #22

Even making them see that they're, well, seen can help. Posteritatis Dec 2014 #20

FUCK! I can't look at that smiling young face, so full of hope ... 11 Bravo Dec 2014 #12

I hear you Bravo nt Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #27

Poor, sweet little boy. smirkymonkey Dec 2014 #13

This stuff makes me sick...I hope the parents of the bully know what they allowed... MadDAsHell Dec 2014 #16

Right on, MadDAsHell. Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #30

Sadly Stargazer09 Dec 2014 #61

The parents probably think it was OK to bully the boy because... Odin2005 Dec 2014 #64

Heartbreaking mcar Dec 2014 #17

There's more here helpmetohelpyou Dec 2014 #18

12 years old. progressoid Dec 2014 #21

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"And this boy had even left school to avoid the bullying so the problem had been solved." Posteritatis Dec 2014 #26

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No the problem wasn't solved. Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #28

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Keep talking BeyondGeography Dec 2014 #35

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... shenmue Dec 2014 #36

The protocol is: "Boys will be boys." longship Dec 2014 #38

Kudos to your mother! Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #40

I'm so sorry for this beautiful boy and his family. Too sad. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #39

Thank you for the supportive and kind words! Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #45

A powerful story, the love of-from-for mothers is grace and beauty. You are lucky indeed. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #49

So sad.. Poor kid. SunSeeker Dec 2014 #41

I feel for his family. TxDemChem Dec 2014 #43

this is heartbreaking -- poor little guy Douglas Carpenter Dec 2014 #46

I have the most awful memories of 12. My heart breaks for this child and his family. mountain grammy Dec 2014 #47

... Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #56

America loves bullies. HomerRamone Dec 2014 #48

Hey HomerRamone! Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2014 #51

:( sakabatou Dec 2014 #55

Absolutely heartbreaking. City Lights Dec 2014 #58

Charges should be brought against the administrators and teaches involved, as well as the students RKP5637 Dec 2014 #59

FUCK BULLIES!!! Odin2005 Dec 2014 #62

It's past time to do something about bullying. SleeplessinSoCal Dec 2014 #72

School bullies learn it at home. They are the victims of someone else and they take out their McCamy Taylor Dec 2014 #76