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LostOne4Ever

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7. Even better is a medical power of attorney given to one or more people you trust
Sun Feb 8, 2015, 06:58 AM
Feb 2015

Last edited Sun Feb 8, 2015, 08:52 PM - Edit history (3)

[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Living Wills and DNRs are good things but they are still non-sentient and that means they do carry some risk especially in situations where the prognosis is unclear or in situations that the patient did not consider when writing up the document.

For example, my mother has multiple medical issues and had both a DNR and a medical power of attorney given to my step father and me. About 4 1/2 years ago she had a seizure and was sent to our small town hospital. By the time she got there she was in a coma and they didn't know what was wrong with her and were going to send her to a bigger hospital in the nearest big city hospital when she had three more seizures and then stopped breathing.

Had we not over-ridden her DNR she would have died. But at that time, no one knew what was wrong with her. We didn't know if she would be able to recover from whatever was wrong with her or not.

But we knew why she had the DNR and why she had given us MPoA. She didn't want to be a vegetable living on machines for the rest of her life. However, we also knew that if there was a chance of her recovering and returning to any semblance of normalcy she would want us to take it.

Turns out that the seizures and coma were caused by a bad drug interaction. We think she stopped breath because of complications from her MS. She survived and made a full recovery and was grateful that we made that call.


I am not saying that DNRs are bad. Rather, I am saying that a medical power of attorney to someone who knows your end of life wishes, and who you know will respect them is even better! They can respond to these more nebulous situations in a way that only a living thinking human being can.

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Absolutely right. It is very necessary. CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2015 #1
You should always make your desires clear Fearless Feb 2015 #2
I think we all agree with that. KMOD Feb 2015 #4
I wonder if this will change your mind: pnwmom Feb 2015 #5
It may surprise you but it doesn't. Fearless Feb 2015 #9
If you had no relatives around and no ability to interact with those around you, pnwmom Feb 2015 #16
I'm not going to debate scenarios Fearless Feb 2015 #19
I agree. A couple of things to remember: rhett o rick Feb 2015 #3
The hardest part for me GP6971 Feb 2015 #27
Use this free advance directive mimi85 Feb 2015 #6
Thanks for sharing... Stellar Feb 2015 #14
Even better is a medical power of attorney given to one or more people you trust LostOne4Ever Feb 2015 #7
That font is painful. JTFrog Feb 2015 #12
Thank you for letting me know LostOne4Ever Feb 2015 #28
That one is very nice. JTFrog Feb 2015 #29
The problem is that hope is sometimes what the family clings to marym625 Feb 2015 #8
When my MIL was here pipi_k Feb 2015 #10
I am sorry for your loss marym625 Feb 2015 #11
Exactly. The heart can outweigh the brain in these cases... Phentex Feb 2015 #13
Some in the medical community don't help marym625 Feb 2015 #18
oh, mary KMOD Feb 2015 #23
Yeah, it ripped my dad apart marym625 Feb 2015 #24
That's so sad... Phentex Feb 2015 #25
Thank you marym625 Feb 2015 #26
Our kids, my doctor, etc.... Omaha Steve Feb 2015 #15
We have both. Very clear, very concise. Tierra_y_Libertad Feb 2015 #17
my mom was open about it and no doubt about what she wanted dembotoz Feb 2015 #20
Excellent points LeftishBrit Feb 2015 #21
As someone who enjoys the sort of mental illness... hunter Feb 2015 #22
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