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In reply to the discussion: The Constant Pain Of Being Ugly. [View all]libodem
(19,288 posts)I can not speak or write in a foreign language somehow I thought it would be less work in High School. I regret it now. I should have tried to learn Spanish.
Sorry you are feeling so low. I'm a disabled older female so we have something in common.
Being premature was not your fault. You can't help how you look. I have a friend who's eye socket was deformed because of how he was curled up in the womb. His heel was against his face. He was a year older than me in High School. About 20 years later I met he and his wife going to music practice at a weekly jam. He was so nice and talented and unself conscious. I just didn't see the unusual shape of his cheek.bone and eye, after a while. He did have some surgery to help his eye look more normal and close right.
I had another friend who had one eye that opened and shut all by itself. It blinked in its own pattern. So unusual and distracting. Same thing happened though once I got to know her and hung out I just stopped seeing it.
Be yourself. Stay gentle, sensitive and kind. That is how people will know you. They will see your spirit and not your physical shell. Hope you feel better soon.