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chowder66

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51. Thank you. That is where my logic is coming from...

Wed Apr 8, 2015, 03:36 PM

Apr 2015

If I'm not okay, I'm no good to others though it hurts that I can't be there for them.
They are okay for now but Dad is battling some issues and Mom may just outlive everyone.
The reason I pick up the phone when I do is because if I don't he starts hounding my parents and I can't have that. I'm stronger than they are when it comes to him. How I wish it were as simple as that, it would be luxurious.

I'll be just fine after I punch a few pillows or take to the treadmill. : )

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... Quackers Apr 2015 #1

Hugs back! chowder66 Apr 2015 #30

Most people just don't get the pain inflicted, Ilsa Apr 2015 #2

Thank you. chowder66 Apr 2015 #50

It's possible for the elderly to move. Ilsa Apr 2015 #64

Unfortunately my Dad hates California and he really can't move. chowder66 Apr 2015 #66

K&R freshwest Apr 2015 #3

Thanks. chowder66 Apr 2015 #31

That's up to you... There are things I know that don't bear the kind of comments they will get here. freshwest Apr 2015 #42

... LiberalLoner Apr 2015 #4

My thoughts are with you, chowder66. democrank Apr 2015 #5

Thanks. I appreciate the thoughts chowder66 Apr 2015 #32

..... BlueCollar Apr 2015 #6

I'm not sure but I take this to chowder66 Apr 2015 #33

Personally ann--- Apr 2015 #7

Thanks Ann chowder66 Apr 2015 #29

... In_The_Wind Apr 2015 #8

You get a hug too! chowder66 Apr 2015 #35

Kick! Heidi Apr 2015 #9

You get a hug right back! chowder66 Apr 2015 #36

Powerful. Thank you for sharing. aikoaiko Apr 2015 #10

Thanks. I was powerfully angry and still am a little bit. chowder66 Apr 2015 #37

Bless you for posting such a powerful message. I am sorry for the pain japple Apr 2015 #11

Thank you for the kind words though I must admit I wasn't seeking them. chowder66 Apr 2015 #38

I am sure that everyone here knows you weren't looking for any kind of support or sympathy. You japple Apr 2015 #80

Sorry for the pain Ghost of Tom Joad Apr 2015 #12

Thank you but it's a little complicated chowder66 Apr 2015 #39

I hear you. riqster Apr 2015 #13

Wow. I don't have a hug icon but I'm giving you an air hug right now! chowder66 Apr 2015 #40

It's hard to envy a fellow survivor, I think. riqster Apr 2015 #58

The envy part is the feeling of safety. chowder66 Apr 2015 #67

More hugs then. riqster Apr 2015 #72

I empathize with you a million percent. I went through much the same with my brother who was underahedgerow Apr 2015 #14

I have a gay friend who was abused by a parent, and he did likewise. closeupready Apr 2015 #22

If we all ran off to California, hell... how many others? chowder66 Apr 2015 #69

And your story is one of the reasons chowder66 Apr 2015 #63

About not going back to take care of your aging parents -- enough Apr 2015 #15

Try not to feel guilty for not moving to help your parents Triana Apr 2015 #16

Thank you. That is where my logic is coming from... chowder66 Apr 2015 #51

:( I understand. Triana Apr 2015 #60

Thank you. KitSileya Apr 2015 #17

Thanks so much. chowder66 Apr 2015 #52

I'm so sorry...... a kennedy Apr 2015 #18

Thank you. Body is okay....well, It's older but okay.... chowder66 Apr 2015 #55

Report, report, report, and with support that may change the lives of victims, so any abuse Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #19

^THIS^! chowder66 Apr 2015 #56

You're more than welcome and we all need to be vigilant and proactive..because we Jefferson23 Apr 2015 #61

it just never ends does it! And yes, I completely agree chowder66 Apr 2015 #65

((((chowder66)))) riderinthestorm Apr 2015 #20

You get a ((((HUG))))) back too! chowder66 Apr 2015 #57

Like others have said, I'd have written him off entirely. closeupready Apr 2015 #21

Thanks. I would too if it meant it was better for everyone chowder66 Apr 2015 #54

Thanks everyone...I'm okay chowder66 Apr 2015 #23

Pissed off or not... F4lconF16 Apr 2015 #24

Thank you. chowder66 Apr 2015 #28

Ah, crap...taxes. F4lconF16 Apr 2015 #34

I think you might have helped blown off my angry-cobwebs chowder66 Apr 2015 #43

Glad I could help :) F4lconF16 Apr 2015 #45

Big Super-Smile on my face! nt chowder66 Apr 2015 #70

That story of the 3-year was a major thing for me yesterday, so much so I had to talk to someone freshwest Apr 2015 #49

Powerfully said. chowder66 Apr 2015 #71

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Thank you for that kindness. chowder66 Apr 2015 #44

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And boy do I feel it! Thank you! nt chowder66 Apr 2015 #46

I'm sorry. bravenak Apr 2015 #27

Thank you. chowder66 Apr 2015 #47

... ismnotwasm Apr 2015 #41

Hugging you back. Thank you! chowder66 Apr 2015 #48

Not Buying This Bullshit! Brett Fitz Apr 2015 #53

You're probably right chowder66 Apr 2015 #75

I think you could get a protection order against him. Alternatively, inform him pnwmom Apr 2015 #59

Thank you but I've mentioned that it's complicated chowder66 Apr 2015 #76

I wasn't suggesting that you actually go public pnwmom Apr 2015 #83

People really are something, aren't they? yallerdawg Apr 2015 #62

I really struggle with how people find the energy to harm others chowder66 Apr 2015 #77

. myrna minx Apr 2015 #68

OOOO a Group HUG!!! Squeezes Back! chowder66 Apr 2015 #73

"who I am says I have to tolerate that to keep my family somewhat together." pnwmom Apr 2015 #74

Thanks again. And yes, I've been trying to figure that out with them chowder66 Apr 2015 #79

Thank you for sharing your life. I'm am so sorry. jonno99 Apr 2015 #78

I'm so terribly sorry and I'm so glad he opened up chowder66 Apr 2015 #81

Peace, peace, peace Hekate Apr 2015 #82