James Dobson on Domestic Violence: Women “Deliberately Bait” Their Husbands

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62. As a survivor of domestic abuse, I tell you Dobson is full of shit!

When men beat up women it's about power and control; not his inability to control his actions -- like any child learns to do -- but his need to control someone else. Its the ultimate power trip for men to dictate every aspect of a woman's life. It feeds his ego and boosts his self esteem... at least for a time.

At his core, my abuser feared being seen as weak and impotent; because he was. He created a fake persona, an avatar, a mask of what he imagined a 'real man' was like. I was merely a prop, someone he directed like a movie extra... say this, do that, look like this... sit, stay, heel. It was all a charade as it wouldn't matter if I did precisely what he wanted or not, the 'consequences' were the same.

Dobson wields his twisted religion like a club, blaming the victim for speaking out or leaving her abuser, and saying she must also shoulder the guilty for not bolstering her tormentor's flagging ego. As if outing him, stripping away his phony mask and exposing his weaknesses and inabilities for the world to see him as the craven weakling that he is, must contradict her terror.

It takes strength and courage just to make the decision to escape and save yourself, but that's when a woman like me finally reclaims her inherent power and realizes how strong she really is.