I’ve read much on the heroics of confronting bulliess recently, that too has a dark side…

[Red State Prisoner]

37. This is a tough one...

I was bullied throughout Junior High, and really never did a whole lot about it. I put my head down, and put up with the name calling, shoving, and, in some instances, spitting. I wasn't afraid of the bullies insomuch as I was afraid of the trouble I might get in. I'll never forget having a kid pour paint across my...well...painting in art class. It was no grand work of art, but I'd put effort in to it, and he'd ruined it for the sake of his own amusement. I retaliated by painting a big pink heart across his "work". Of course, the art teacher, even after having seen what transpired, sent us both to the office for "throwing paint". Three licks and an assigned detention later, I decided it wasn't worth it. So I kept quiet for the remainder of my stay at what I can only describe as a living Hell of a school. Luckily, I hit a growth spurt my final year and became less of a target.

25 years later and now a father, I will not allow my children to be bullied. I've taught and encouraged them to stand up for themselves and, more importantly, for each other. It's landed them in a bit of trouble from time to time, but I've always supported them and made it clear to teachers, administrators, and/or principles that I will not chastise them for fighting back. So far, and I'm knocking on wood here, it seems to have worked out. I've taught them that verbal taunts are to be laughed off and ignored all together. However, if the bullying becomes physical, they know to defend themselves.

I don't want nor do I like the idea of my kids fighting. I'm a peace loving, laid back type of guy. I just don't want them to be subjected to the same torment I had to endure as a kid.