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polly7

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131. You know what?

Sun May 31, 2015, 11:58 AM

May 2015

As kind as some people have been, and so generous with various offers ... when you're facing having to leave your only safe haven, as bad as it might be, the environment one has gotten used to, for some, it can be terrifying. The stress, anxiety, fear - often hopelessness - can literally leave you feeling paralyzed. Your non-decisions and actions may seem 'crazy' to someone else, but they come from a place that very few really know unless they've walked in that person's shoes. I choose to give credibility to anyone brave enough to ask for help - the alternative and possible consequences are frightening and sad. I believe this poster may be very depressed, and things that may seem easy to you or I (at this time ... once, I felt exactly the same) may seem to her like mountains to cross.

No one has to give a cent, but tearing down someone's spirit is cruel and unnecessary - especially if they are in need. You don't know. I don't know. It doesn't hurt to be kind. Your post just might be the inspiration that strikes enough of a chord in that person to really help.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] TorchTheWitch May 2015 OP

Still scamming? What about all that money your phil89 May 2015 #1

Yep. Kills me that some good people here love to be scammed. alphafemale May 2015 #27

It's getting old to see the poster keep coming back. morningfog May 2015 #51

And blaming every single person that she had made no progress at all. bettyellen May 2015 #52

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel May 2015 #54

These sob stories should be delegated to a DU sub-basement. alphafemale May 2015 #155

I'd rather 'coddle' someone in trouble than post cruel shit that just polly7 May 2015 #159

You are being conned. Period. alphafemale May 2015 #160

You don't know that. polly7 May 2015 #162

lol. She'll be back with another contrived sob story in about 4 weeks. alphafemale May 2015 #164

If she's back in 4 weeks asking for help, I'll believe she still hasn't gotten the polly7 May 2015 #170

I think Tree-Hugger May 2015 #227

Apparently, there is a need to be cruel. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #167

Well said ... polly7 May 2015 #177

That is the key to me. Jamastiene Jun 2015 #261

Conned? Texasgal May 2015 #166

Whether it's a 'con' or not I don't know but Lilith Rising May 2015 #181

try a pawn shop. trumad May 2015 #2

This is a scammer. Period. alphafemale May 2015 #31

A couple of weeks ago, I predicted cwydro May 2015 #36

weird thing is the same username has posted on other DU topics since then- KittyWampus May 2015 #75

About every 28 days or so -- like menstruation. nt betsuni May 2015 #93

Some people have no shame in scamming people. alphafemale May 2015 #112

I'm afraid I agree. cwydro May 2015 #129

If you have TV and BlueRay player NEVER SUMMER May 2015 #3

Pawn shops will give you 30% of what they estimate the item's resale value to be. n/t. cheapdate May 2015 #107

oh dear, that's even worse that I thought TorchTheWitch May 2015 #117

But it is better than 0% Tree-Hugger May 2015 #121

It doesn't matter. cheapdate May 2015 #136

you said you don't use or need the items anyways so better to get something for it JI7 May 2015 #216

You have a decent amount in gofundme. 840high May 2015 #4

it's not in there TorchTheWitch May 2015 #73

This message was self-deleted by its author Puzzledtraveller May 2015 #94

Dude you got 1211.00 in your Gofundme account. trumad May 2015 #5

I'm pretty sure if you withdraw the money, it still shows the total OKNancy May 2015 #6

For how long does it show? trumad May 2015 #7

Almost 8% of that went to gofundme & wepay even though it shows in her total Omaha Steve May 2015 #22

Thanks Steve... trumad May 2015 #23

Does anyone know why GoFundMe is preferred over YouCaring? catrose May 2015 #219

I am not a fan of these panhandling posts. NightWatcher May 2015 #8

Ignore is your friend. You can also not click. roody May 2015 #26

Or, one can just state their opinion pintobean May 2015 #30

I have verified TTW's ID, location, and circumstances! Omaha Steve May 2015 #9

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel May 2015 #55

I think I've made my point now Omaha Steve May 2015 #57

Steve please delete the address. That is a shitty thing to do.... bettyellen May 2015 #58

Fork in the Road address? Omaha Steve May 2015 #59

Okay. Sorry. bettyellen May 2015 #60

IF that is the worst thing to happen to me it is a great day Omaha Steve May 2015 #62

Ha ha, great attitude, Steve! bettyellen May 2015 #115

It's Yoshi Texasgal May 2015 #76

are you serious ? JI7 May 2015 #80

Yes. I am. Texasgal May 2015 #82

lol JI7 May 2015 #83

What's funny? Texasgal May 2015 #85

i think it's funny you expect people to know the dog's name JI7 May 2015 #90

I've been here over ten years, I've posted my cats name snooper2 Jun 2015 #274

Corrected, thanks. Moshi is another animal I've met. bettyellen May 2015 #120

Some people's particular mental issues treestar Jun 2015 #264

Hey wow Steve, cwydro May 2015 #63

Those are PMs? They look like posts to me, with post numbers and everything. Sheldon Cooper May 2015 #64

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel Jun 2015 #257

can the people who gave you new tv and blue ray player help you out ? JI7 May 2015 #10

unfortunately not TorchTheWitch May 2015 #13

there are a few different ways, i was assuming you didn't want them back JI7 May 2015 #14

I wouldn't want them back TorchTheWitch May 2015 #20

CraigsList? PasadenaTrudy May 2015 #47

I would go to a food pantry, pronto shrike May 2015 #11

without gas though I can't go anywhere TorchTheWitch May 2015 #17

Are you in Havertown, Pa.? shrike May 2015 #19

Yes! TorchTheWitch May 2015 #21

Location shrike May 2015 #24

Shrike, what an excellent and helpful post! inanna May 2015 #74

+1 Tree-Hugger May 2015 #99

I wonder cwydro May 2015 #189

Well, considering it says it's open Texasgal May 2015 #197

Oh, my bad. cwydro May 2015 #198

If you sell the stuff on Craigslist forthemiddle May 2015 #25

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel May 2015 #29

All food pantries have dry goods and personal care items. bettyellen May 2015 #33

I volunteer at a food pantry, and while we do have some hygiene products, we only have them when Fla Dem May 2015 #127

Same here Tree-Hugger May 2015 #210

This message was self-deleted by its author DawgHouse May 2015 #89

of course - did that months ago TorchTheWitch May 2015 #145

This message was self-deleted by its author DawgHouse May 2015 #157

TTW, 8 years ago you were a stripper. Now you're too old for bartending jobs??!! riderinthestorm May 2015 #171

Thanks rider. cwydro May 2015 #195

Is it at all possible Texasgal May 2015 #205

And in 2012. betsuni May 2015 #202

So??? nt. polly7 May 2015 #204

Right? Texasgal May 2015 #206

I don't even understand why her history is important at all. polly7 May 2015 #209

Exactly. Texasgal May 2015 #214

You said it waaaay better than me! nt. polly7 May 2015 #217

Now her story is she can't get a job bartending because she's too old riderinthestorm May 2015 #231

So to go from a physically demanding job a few years ago betsuni May 2015 #211

That's not odd at all. Texasgal May 2015 #212

A bartender works harder than a stripper. It's heavy labor riderinthestorm May 2015 #233

I don't think most people understand how anxiety, insomnia, constant worry, depression, etc, polly7 May 2015 #213

Giant Tree-Hugger May 2015 #225

Seeing there is a Giant store across the street from you, have you applied for a job there? Would Fla Dem May 2015 #130

This is a great post. cwydro May 2015 #132

That would be impossible since there is NO Giant located in Havertown PA snooper2 Jun 2015 #277

According to TTW: " I can walk to the Giant across the street for any food with my access card, but Fla Dem Jun 2015 #278

Shared shenmue May 2015 #12

Go to these two sites... ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #15

will do TorchTheWitch May 2015 #18

I agree with the Craigslist angle on selling your goodies. Just only accept cash, don't send underahedgerow May 2015 #32

Off topic, but thanks for the leads to Lilith Rising May 2015 #41

what sort of writing is it that they're looking for? TorchTheWitch May 2015 #69

Your service provider will not shut you off for one missed payment. Joe the Revelator May 2015 #71

I do? TorchTheWitch May 2015 #72

Can't you downgrade your FIOS? Carewfan May 2015 #86

Agreed Tree-Hugger May 2015 #100

Yes, they provide the modem, but they also charge the lease costs of the modem Carewfan May 2015 #110

I have never been charged Tree-Hugger May 2015 #118

Yeah, Centurylink does.. Carewfan May 2015 #119

So far, Verizon hasn't. Tree-Hugger May 2015 #122

we don't have DSL in this area TorchTheWitch May 2015 #111

I suggest Tree-Hugger May 2015 #123

what do you use? TorchTheWitch Jun 2015 #250

I have Verizon Tree-Hugger Jun 2015 #271

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel Jun 2015 #260

Yes you'll get a fine, but you'll have 60 days to use the internet to make some cash Joe the Revelator May 2015 #101

A lot of people transcribe without it. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #77

This. There is so much free wifi out there.nt Joe the Revelator May 2015 #102

They give you prompts for the writing. Ms. Toad May 2015 #104

I went through the process myself Saturday morning. Lilith Rising May 2015 #141

As long as you tie a benefit to a feature, I'll fall immediately in love with you. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #147

I'm pretty sure I did but... Lilith Rising May 2015 #149

Thanks for this information Tree-Hugger May 2015 #168

If I can help you in any way, please let me know. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #169

Thank you Tree-Hugger May 2015 #208

good to know renate Jun 2015 #255

You're welcome! ScreamingMeemie Jun 2015 #268

.. PowerToThePeople May 2015 #16

Can you apply at a temporary agency? IVoteDFL May 2015 #28

I tried that but still trying TorchTheWitch May 2015 #88

If you have less than two weeks before they take a your shit, sell what you can next weekend ready. bettyellen May 2015 #125

Not to be that guy.....but aren't posts requesting money from the user base at DU... Joe the Revelator May 2015 #34

No etherealtruth May 2015 #37

Got it. Joe the Revelator May 2015 #39

I think "back in the day" you needed permission etherealtruth May 2015 #40

OG 4 Lyfe Joe the Revelator May 2015 #42

are you strong enough to work for a group like "companions and homemakers"? CTyankee May 2015 #35

as I am now I'm not so sure TorchTheWitch May 2015 #191

Dizzy spells like that can be indicative of anemia. Lilith Rising May 2015 #196

nah, it's my crazy low blood pressure TorchTheWitch May 2015 #234

No, it's pretty normal with hypOtension REP May 2015 #238

Just mentioning it because Lilith Rising May 2015 #240

My normal is shock for anyone else REP May 2015 #241

You need an ENT to get to the bottom of your dizziness. I am going to one tomorrow CTyankee May 2015 #201

another thought: volunteer to do some office work in a charity you like. You will get CTyankee May 2015 #207

Jesus, what my family has put me through is already bad enough TorchTheWitch Jun 2015 #249

But is volunteering to do some office work at a nonprofit organization impossible ? CTyankee Jun 2015 #265

I donated to this charity in your name...http://www.changelives.org zappaman May 2015 #38

Interesting group! I try to keep my donations as local bettyellen May 2015 #45

Thought something positive could come off this monthly thread. zappaman May 2015 #50

Contact Info for your local Feeding America Food Bank Pooka Fey May 2015 #43

14 week culinary arts training program at Philabundance, 81% job placement rate Pooka Fey May 2015 #44

Philabundance Tree-Hugger May 2015 #103

Are you thinking having Moschi declared medically necessary will somehow help you find housing? bettyellen May 2015 #46

This gives me pause as well. An emotional support dog is not the same as a service dog. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #49

I feel like this is another distraction when a daily job and housing search bettyellen May 2015 #53

Probably the only thing in her 840high May 2015 #56

I hope things get better for you soon. polly7 May 2015 #48

Wow, I never knew you had to go through that. NaturalHigh May 2015 #66

When I look back, except for having to sell my horses :( polly7 May 2015 #68

I'm sorry about your horses. DawgHouse May 2015 #92

Thank you DawgHouse. polly7 May 2015 #137

AGAIN!! JESUS CHRIST!! beaglelover May 2015 #61

So long as the gravy train pays the rats will return. nt alphafemale May 2015 #151

Hi TTW stage left May 2015 #65

For anyone who doesn't want to donate... NaturalHigh May 2015 #67

+1 stage left May 2015 #70

Couldn't agree more. TDale313 May 2015 #78

Agreed marle35 May 2015 #84

Absolutely right NH... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #87

...^ that 840high May 2015 #96

pitiful H2O Man May 2015 #79

what happened with the offer of help from msanthrope ? JI7 May 2015 #81

Was that the person offering TTW a free place to live? Boudica the Lyoness May 2015 #97

i think the offer of a free place was a totally different offer JI7 May 2015 #98

Yes DUer Corgigal offered TTW a place for her AND Yoshi in Charleston riderinthestorm May 2015 #124

This message was self-deleted by its author DawgHouse May 2015 #126

You know what? polly7 May 2015 #131

You are 100% correct. riderinthestorm May 2015 #133

That's the thing with feeling afraid to the point you can't do what you need to. polly7 May 2015 #134

You are a kind soul Polly! riderinthestorm May 2015 #140

TY, I'm just someone who's gone through sort of the same thing. polly7 May 2015 #142

This message was self-deleted by its author DawgHouse May 2015 #161

You're so right. polly7 May 2015 #163

Thank you, Polly. The paralyzing terror of doing ANYTHING! catrose May 2015 #194

THIS post should be an OP. polly7 May 2015 #200

Thanks, Polly catrose May 2015 #218

Really? SheilaT May 2015 #91

Post removed Post removed May 2015 #116

There are rescue groups for her breed of dog. Several in her state, in fact. KittyWampus May 2015 #128

I'm just squinting so hard at this whole thread. Butterbean May 2015 #245

I was a social service caseworker in Kentucky Puzzledtraveller May 2015 #95

Mturk Tree-Hugger May 2015 #105

Good ideas. And for Yoshi catrose May 2015 #152

oDesk is another one Tree-Hugger May 2015 #106

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours. Katashi_itto May 2015 #108

Amen to this sketchy May 2015 #139

I won't pass judgement on who "should know better" pintobean May 2015 #150

There's a Jewish version of that too catrose May 2015 #192

What about applying at Wawa? justamama83 May 2015 #109

There's a common Western misunderstanding of the concept of "Karma" Recursion May 2015 #113

Thank you for the explanation. DawgHouse May 2015 #114

+1 Depaysement May 2015 #158

Notice SheilaT May 2015 #135

What's sad is how many people have been conned out of their hard earned money. MoonRiver May 2015 #138

Please stop calling the OP a con artist. MineralMan May 2015 #146

OK a grifter then. alphafemale May 2015 #154

Personal attacks on other DUers are just plain wrong. MineralMan May 2015 #173

You'll see another elaborate beg in about 4 weeks. alphafemale May 2015 #175

So? Don't donate, then. MineralMan May 2015 #176

You are not at all bothered that you are giving money to someone with a nicer car than you? alphafemale May 2015 #180

Ermm.. Texasgal May 2015 #182

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel Jun 2015 #256

Who did I give money to? MineralMan May 2015 #183

^This. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #185

She responded to mine. What I have noticed... ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #143

Are you kidding? SheilaT Jun 2015 #248

as a follow up to my earlier post, it occurred to me that you might try being a live-in CTyankee May 2015 #144

Post removed Post removed May 2015 #148

The only positive is that she has not been spamming folks' DU mail like "Stewert" (nt) Nye Bevan May 2015 #153

I hope TTW can find what she needs. Loryn May 2015 #156

. ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #165

Have you tried contacting the Women's Resource Center yet? suffragette May 2015 #172

This is EXCELLENT! Texasgal May 2015 #174

+1,000,000 .... nt. polly7 May 2015 #178

I posted the link in a previous thread, but maybe it didn't stand out enough suffragette May 2015 #184

Such great resources, I really hope she looks into them. polly7 May 2015 #186

Research and writing are two of my stronger skills suffragette May 2015 #187

If you hadn't noticed upthread... Lilith Rising May 2015 #193

Thanks for the info Lilith suffragette May 2015 #226

You're welcome and Lilith Rising May 2015 #235

That is wonderful of you. I hope TTW just starts calling/contacting and continually CTyankee May 2015 #188

I share your hope that TTW follows up on resource leads. suffragette May 2015 #190

My stepdaughter is great. Altho I am not Jewish I think I love its rituals better than CTyankee May 2015 #199

As a lapsed Catholic, I have a soft spot for rituals as well. suffragette May 2015 #230

Stupid question Tree-Hugger May 2015 #232

well, I'm not sure in my stepdaughter's case but knowing of her strong support of CTyankee Jun 2015 #267

Thanks for the info Tree-Hugger Jun 2015 #269

Thank you! I'll be doing another art post this coming Friday at 5 pm EDT... CTyankee Jun 2015 #270

Absolutely :) nt Tree-Hugger Jun 2015 #273

yes TorchTheWitch May 2015 #203

Call them anyways PasadenaTrudy May 2015 #220

Emotional support dogs aren't the same as trained service dogs, and I fear ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #221

I know the difference between an emotional support animal TorchTheWitch May 2015 #222

What I'm trying to say is that there are no legal protections for emotional support dogs ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #223

that I know TorchTheWitch May 2015 #236

Not to be a dick, but.... Tree-Hugger May 2015 #224

I haven't been evicted TorchTheWitch May 2015 #247

Message auto-removed Name removed May 2015 #228

Do you actually hear yourself? Tree-Hugger May 2015 #229

Why dig your heels in?� TeeYiYi May 2015 #237

Post removed Post removed Jun 2015 #272

WRC and ESA suffragette May 2015 #242

Nice research - thank you. Lilith Rising May 2015 #246

Excellent resource!!! nt Tree-Hugger May 2015 #215

I gave a bit. I do hope things change soon for you and Yoshi. onecaliberal May 2015 #179

The woman needs money--not scolding jcboon May 2015 #239

I hope by now she has enough to 840high May 2015 #243

That's shitty to ASSume none of us have helped her riderinthestorm May 2015 #244

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel Jun 2015 #258

Can't you get any social assistance if your are in such akbacchus_BC Jun 2015 #251

I've wasted far too much time on social assistance that doesn't exist TorchTheWitch Jun 2015 #254

I haven't helped ohheckyeah Jun 2015 #252

11K Views Jesus Malverde Jun 2015 #253

This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel Jun 2015 #259

The conservative sites are not our problem; they can go pound sand..... Hekate Jun 2015 #262

I agree with you Dorian Gray Jun 2015 #263

be careful. I had a post hidden for politely mentioning she might have a substance abuse KittyWampus Jun 2015 #266

I agree Tree-Hugger Jun 2015 #276

My two cents DemocratSinceBirth Jun 2015 #275

Some of us have family and friends who are mentally ill and/or abusing drugs- KittyWampus Jun 2015 #279