I'm not in a big talkin kinda mood...feeling down today....

I've seen the articles you mention, about men having a harder time with separation than women.

I can't compare such subjective experiences, I just know I've grieved some ferociously painful losses.

But---I guess maybe having only had "relationships" with a long series of real big mistakes over my life, I should be glad I don't have to worry about losing someone I love... (did I mention I'm feeling really down today? :p).

Anyway, aside from individual heartbreak, I do think the systemic oppression of women makes our later years more difficult, compared to what men can expect.

Just one example that comes to mind, from an article I saw (sorry, don't remember who published it)---women have a longer lifespan, generally. But our health and quality of life is worse. Financially, we tend to be worse off. And alone.

We become invisible due to age shunning much sooner than men do. We are judged by our looks to an extent men can probably never truly understand, and the first requirement is youth. Our "shelf life" ends around our 40's. If you haven't experienced invisibility, it's hard to explain what it feels like.

don't know what else to say. I just ran out of words.....