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RebelOne

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2. My daughter and her husband were married in the 1980s

Sat May 12, 2012, 12:51 PM

May 2012

by a justice of the peace. They had a grand wedding, but it was not in a church. They were married outside a country club and the reception was inside. But in the '90s, her husband joined the Catholic church. She is an atheist, as I am, but they had to remarry in the Catholic church for their marriage to be recognized by the church. She also had to attend pre-martial classes. Can you imagine an atheist attending pre-martial classes in a Catholic church and then having to be married again in the church. But she bravely went through it. They have since split up and are in the midst of a divorce.

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My husband and I were married in the Catholic church; our civil marriage was NOT RECOGNIZED [View all] K8-EEE May 2012 OP

Did you have to pay for those classes? MADem May 2012 #1

Hmmm.....I don't think so. K8-EEE May 2012 #4

That sounds like an excellent class - too many dioceses hedgehog May 2012 #7

My daughter and her husband were married in the 1980s RebelOne May 2012 #2

The irony is that the husband will now have to get an annullment hedgehog May 2012 #8

Personally, I would never have done the classes in the first place. alarimer May 2012 #22

The Reichwing religionists are vying for control of the theocracy they are creating state by state freshwest May 2012 #3

Those classes are called Pre Cana and I will tell you this much I went through them. southernyankeebelle May 2012 #5

You are onto something there tabbycat31 May 2012 #14

Yes that would be good. But I tell you the Pre Cana classes are really good and everyone should southernyankeebelle May 2012 #17

It's the one-size-fits-all approach I have a problem with Retrograde May 2012 #25

Chile and Italy also do this. Civil marriage is the legal one. Religious is the sacramental one. SharonAnn May 2012 #27

Precisely. rug May 2012 #6

I don't like having to defend the Catholic Church but your story shows they are being snagglepuss May 2012 #9

You mentioned it in your post Retrograde May 2012 #10

LOL. Since the government, and not the RCC hifiguy May 2012 #11

Why we need a complete separation of church state nadinbrzezinski May 2012 #12

I am for the separation of church and hate ashling May 2012 #20

the catholic church does not recognize my marriage; I do not recognize the catholic church rurallib May 2012 #13

"Return" as in rejoin? Ilsa May 2012 #18

yeah - rejoin rurallib May 2012 #21

I don't blame you for being pissed. Ilsa May 2012 #26

Well, my parents were both dead by the time I was 25 rurallib May 2012 #29

This is what's good about that whole separation of church and state stuff.... wandy May 2012 #15

Why did you not tell the RCC to attempt aerial fornication? PavePusher May 2012 #16

Melodie and I were married ashling May 2012 #19

Simply because they have you and me looking at this "christian man and woman thing" rustydog May 2012 #23

Marriage is a sacrament of the church RB TexLa May 2012 #24

My thought to that would be that if my marriage didn't count then their opinion jp11 May 2012 #28

I choose to worship Thor tabasco May 2012 #30