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Ikonoklast

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32. This might be therapy for the offended spouse, but will work against her in a court of law.

Fri May 18, 2012, 01:39 PM

May 2012

I can tell you this from a first-person perspective.

Judges take a very dim view on the willful destruction of community property.

She just might have taken a big financial hit in any potential settlement on this one.

After my ex destroyed a vehicle held in my name, she petitioned the court to keep the one that wasn't destroyed to use until the divorce was finalized.

The judge saw otherwise.

She got the use of car that she had vandalized.

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Angry ex-wife puts hate for husband on display [View all] n2doc May 2012 OP

OTOH, it appears she isn't suppressing anything and got it all out of her system n/t Sheepshank May 2012 #1

EXACTLY CatWoman May 2012 #2

That is the opposite of therapy. What she did will make her worse. ZombieHorde May 2012 #31

While I agree with you, BlueToTheBone May 2012 #34

How will it make it worse Aerows May 2012 #66

People who dwell on the negative and "vent" are more likely to become angrier in the future. ZombieHorde May 2012 #68

Okay Aerows May 2012 #70

She isn't dwelling obamanut2012 May 2012 #74

The therapist would be going against the common findings of scientific studies on the subject. ZombieHorde May 2012 #77

I know of several therapists who would disagree obamanut2012 May 2012 #81

I would enjoy hearing their argument against the studies. ZombieHorde May 2012 #83

I felt a hell of a lot better, and am still Aerows May 2012 #88

Actually, it is closer to a study of one than empirical evidence. nt ZombieHorde May 2012 #100

I'm no dr., but I disagree. It wasn't violence....it was getting rid of him, figuratively, Honeycombe8 May 2012 #114

Not everyone finds peered reviewed studies to be very convincing, I guess. nt ZombieHorde May 2012 #115

Actually, what she did WAS considered therapeutic obamanut2012 May 2012 #73

If peer-reviewed studies influence your opinions, check this out... ZombieHorde May 2012 #75

What studies? lunatica May 2012 #106

Finding free, peer reviewed studies can be time consuming, but here is one... ZombieHorde May 2012 #116

This isn't therapy mythology May 2012 #67

She is changing her life, she's getting cash out of the jackass. Darth_Kitten May 2012 #109

And the best thing about it is that it's all marital property Fawke Em May 2012 #3

It appears to be just her property Major Nikon May 2012 #30

How about domestic violence against you as well? Darth_Kitten May 2012 #110

I doubt it's all out of her system LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #18

What to you think the Divorce proceeding will look like? demosincebirth May 2012 #25

According to the article the divorce is already finalized Major Nikon May 2012 #27

Why is it not healthy? leftynyc May 2012 #43

Fires are dangerous, just ask Lisa "Left-eye" Lopes. hughee99 May 2012 #45

Good God LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #47

It was her property as per her divorce obamanut2012 May 2012 #78

It didn't specify that in the article LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #93

That's not a "new level" of anger. I've seen it happen before. Solly Mack May 2012 #4

I for one am positive the woman the man was cheating with was single.. Fumesucker May 2012 #5

O I dunno abelenkpe May 2012 #28

All my ex's live in Texas Life Long Dem May 2012 #6

Hardly a new level Horse with no Name May 2012 #7

Yepper! blueamy66 May 2012 #8

Amen Aerows May 2012 #24

^^^This nt laundry_queen May 2012 #85

From article: "Superior police decided to tow the GMC Yukon away" WTF? based on what law? Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #9

Yeah, that's what you get for cheating Aerows May 2012 #10

Yes you are worth it. Horse with no Name May 2012 #14

Sounds like they sent out the right cop. JNelson6563 May 2012 #17

This guy was an abuser Horse with no Name May 2012 #20

Mine struck me once Aerows May 2012 #21

I'm glad you got away too! JNelson6563 May 2012 #22

Me too, JN Aerows May 2012 #23

I'm glad you made it out too! JNelson6563 May 2012 #42

It was screwed up Aerows May 2012 #48

And that is what it is...the most hurtful form of disrespect. Horse with no Name May 2012 #65

I'm just generous Aerows May 2012 #80

Thanks! Horse with no Name May 2012 #64

Cheating is abuse. Fawke Em May 2012 #97

We both are Aerows May 2012 #19

If some guy had done this to his cheating ex-wife he'd probably be in jail. Zalatix May 2012 #11

I'm female and did it to a female Aerows May 2012 #12

How does that invalidate the posters claim? 4th law of robotics May 2012 #51

LOL Aerows May 2012 #63

"If you don't understand why".. that's a copout, come on now. Zalatix May 2012 #94

People seem to think destruction of other property is OK MattBaggins May 2012 #101

If the genders were reversed 4th law of robotics May 2012 #117

Bullshit. n/t Horse with no Name May 2012 #13

He certainly wouldn't be getting cheered on here. Union Scribe May 2012 #15

He'd be a creep, a psychopath, a monster that you hide your kids from Zalatix May 2012 #95

lol. yes, we as a society love cheating wives La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #16

On what charge? leftynyc May 2012 #44

Vandalism, destruction of property, etc 4th law of robotics May 2012 #53

It's not vandalism if it's marital property. Fawke Em May 2012 #57

It was legally HER property obamanut2012 May 2012 #82

If it was her property, then she has issues Art_from_Ark May 2012 #98

Right, because cheaters deserve understanding women. Darth_Kitten May 2012 #112

Was it? 4th law of robotics May 2012 #119

The sympathy here would definitely be subdued 4th law of robotics May 2012 #52

So you condone cheating Aerows May 2012 #69

Do you think a scorned lover should have the right to . . . 4th law of robotics May 2012 #118

Hard to imagine how this marriage ended in divorce Major Nikon May 2012 #26

Yes, with all the love, intimacy and lack of any dysfunctional behaviors, KurtNYC May 2012 #129

I'm not a professional, but I am sensing some hostility here. Nye Bevan May 2012 #29

...and wading through the junk on the lawn. JHB May 2012 #36

Oh I hope that catches on as a phrase. Robb May 2012 #50

Exactly :D Aerows May 2012 #72

Hostility usually happens when you cheat Aerows May 2012 #71

lol woolldog May 2012 #127

This might be therapy for the offended spouse, but will work against her in a court of law. Ikonoklast May 2012 #32

She waited until the divorce was final. nt TBF May 2012 #35

Was the ex-husband given the chance to remove the property from the premises? Ikonoklast May 2012 #37

I suppose we see what we want to see... LanternWaste May 2012 #49

Cheating on one's spouse doesn't come into play very much in divorce proceedings. Ikonoklast May 2012 #54

Maybe not where you live, but I filed a fault divorce Fawke Em May 2012 #59

Exactly -- fault divorce for adultery and it can be proved? obamanut2012 May 2012 #86

Exactly. I was a stay-at-home Mom Fawke Em May 2012 #96

It was her property as per the divorce settlement obamanut2012 May 2012 #84

The article isn't clear about that. ronnie624 May 2012 #99

Don't agree that it's 'hate'. Just plain anger over being cheated on. sinkingfeeling May 2012 #33

+1 whathehell May 2012 #58

My husband's ex-wife did this. bluedeminredstate May 2012 #38

That's nasty..... Darth_Kitten May 2012 #113

I get the feeling this may not be a first cheating incident. n/t cynatnite May 2012 #39

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague May 2012 #40

I think the story should be about how the police stole their suv. jp11 May 2012 #41

Sounds like somebody has been listening to the radio. davsand May 2012 #46

Supposedly men and women cheat in roughly the same amounts and yet you rarely 4th law of robotics May 2012 #55

Two reasons... Fawke Em May 2012 #60

You point B) could explain the discrepancy in your point A). 4th law of robotics May 2012 #122

They weren't supposed to be continuous points, but Fawke Em May 2012 #131

Of course they do obamanut2012 May 2012 #87

Okay, my experience laundry_queen May 2012 #92

Those seem like very plausible reasons 4th law of robotics May 2012 #121

Are there statistics on that? treestar May 2012 #107

Just something I read once upon a time 4th law of robotics May 2012 #120

I would think one could find stories of men destroying treestar May 2012 #123

Possibly some 4th law of robotics May 2012 #124

Seem to be according to what standard? treestar May 2012 #125

My personal observation 4th law of robotics May 2012 #126

"Take it somewhere else, Buster" - Message from George Will's first wife. yellowcanine May 2012 #56

LOL Buster! LOL lonestarnot May 2012 #76

Wow Gore1FL May 2012 #61

That looks pretty therapeutic to me. EFerrari May 2012 #62

Seems quite idiotic to me. MrSlayer May 2012 #79

You are blaming the cheating on the cheated-upon wife? obamanut2012 May 2012 #89

No. Just speculating. MrSlayer May 2012 #91

She is an idiot. Costs him and herself money. Dumb! Logical May 2012 #90

At least it wasn't 5 flats........n/t Jello Biafra May 2012 #102

At least she didn't drive the car into a lake with their kids strapped in KurtNYC May 2012 #130

That's very juvenile behavior for someone who is old enough to be married slackmaster May 2012 #103

What I find somewhat... 99Forever May 2012 #104

This message was self-deleted by its author Dash87 May 2012 #105

If he's the cheater and louse, he should get the therapy. Darth_Kitten May 2012 #108

I'd be furious too. The cheater exposes his/her SO to incurable STDs, HIV etc riderinthestorm May 2012 #111

She needs to get a freakin' life. Bake May 2012 #128