Angry ex-wife puts hate for husband on display

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92. Okay, my experience

I belong to a divorce support group (where yes, the amount of men/women cheaters is pretty evenly divided) and there seem to be several reasons for this.

1 - the men didn't see it coming as much as the women did. Women hear about cheating men all the time and tend to be more suspicious by nature. Many men didn't know statistics show it's a pretty even split. Women cheaters are not often talked about and so the men were pretty much blindsided, which leads to a kind of shock at first where they are simply paralyzed with disbelief (where the women seemed to get angry right away).
2 - the men whose wives had cheated often had wives who left before they (the men) found out about the cheating, whereas the women caught their husbands cheating while they were still together and often the affair had been going on for months or even years. It seemed, within my group, that women were more likely to leave their husbands over the cheating almost immediately when they started cheating (and often gave a lot of 'warning' signs about being unhappy), while men were more likely to stick with their wives and try to cover it up and pretend everything was great, which led to a deeper anger (when you find out someone's been cheating for YEARS while pretending to love you, well that's sick).
3 - The women seemed to have more support and validation of their anger from friends and family, whereas the men were expected to 'suck it up' and 'move on'. Many of the men started dating again right away (with, yes, many disasterous results).

Just my observations.