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[bettyellen]

364. when you beg for help- you do not get to set unreasonable terms. real life does not work that way.

expecting Misanthrope's family to keep housing an animal that endangers them is cruel. TTW had bragged about Yoshi being an attack dog- but did not warn her about this aggressiveness when she made her generous offer. That was dishonest of TTW, and cruel to Yoshi.

One of the primary factors was her dragging her feet - for months- to the point where it was hard to believe she wanted any help. Ignoring advice again and again and again, stalling with the job search, stalling signing up for housing- blaming others for ALL of that.....blaming everyone for endless misunderstandings, and trying to throw good money after bad to stay in her apartment.

Endless bad decisions that she would take no responsibility for. Many of us have endured years of similar behavior from family and friends who are addicts or have severe mental issues plus addiction. We know that enabling the situation does not help. The red flags were all over her responses.

Not bootstraps at all- but if she had shown just a few shreds of responsibility, if she had actually done more than a few phone calls those first months... it would have prompted a bigger outpouring of help. Instead- she angrily said she didn't even read or follow up on advice given because others annoyed her on the thread. She rejected housing because she didn't like the sound of a voice on the phone. So, again- it is everyone else's fault.

She again fails to take responsibility for Yoshi's situation - which happened because she did not warn Misanthrope he could be dangerous- and now it's "her terms" are not met?

I know she is not well, but it is not helping her, defending her cruel and unfair expectations of others. Other people should not get mauled due to her inability to care for him. Nope.