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[daredtowork]

386. Neither of us know exactly what TTW told msanthrope's Ex or the Dogwalker

Msanthrope made the offer of her own free will, and she says she merely didn't know about that breed, so she may have underestimated what TTW described.

TTW's main concern was to find a place to put Yoshi where she could get him back. TTW did not "drag her feet": she had not collected enough money to move forward: i.e., to move and make a downpayment on another place. But she also needed supportive services at the same time (as mentioned in another thread) because between the legal problems, her unemployment, and impending homelessness, the stress level was too great for anyone to be ablee to manage.

I did not see her "stalling" with the job search. I saw her get a job, where she may have been promptly fired again because of the circumstances (was that the pharmacy thing?). And I saw her register for temp jobs. I saw her reach out to social services. I saw her following up on resources as much as possible.

She was not stalling on signing up for housing: there was nowhere to go with her dog.

There were no "red flags" in her responses: only desperation because yet another month had gone by that she had to hold out, and she wouldn't be able to raise enough money to move some place that would take Yoshi because of "skeptics".

Even if TTW weren't obviously mentally frazzled, there is a tendency to craft stories around people we don't help or feel guilty about not helping: *they* didn't accept help, *they* didn't take responsibility, *they* didn't do the right thing.

Most things I saw from TTW looked logical to me, including her upset/frazzled response to the whole situation.


I can make some guesses about who "annoyed" her on the thread: I'm sure if she used the language she was really thinking, she would be getting a stronger label. People were constantly saying very cruel things that were denying her autonomy and misrepresenting what she was doing. As you are now.