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In reply to the discussion: To the other women wondering where the good men are anymore, [View all]bhikkhu
(10,714 posts)(being male, btw)...I was raised respecting my mom and grandma and aunts very much - all very accomplished, intelligent and strong individuals. I wanted a partner who was like that, who could stand on her own feet, who I could talk to and enjoy life with with.
Never happened - most women just wanted someone to lean on, or someone to disappear into, or someone to tell them what to do. You want a partner, you get an employee. Or worse, someone who then just uses you to pay the bills while she relives her stupid teen years in secret (don't get me started!). I blame the culture, or the changes in the culture, though likely I bear some of the blame as well.
In any case, at 40-something I've given up, and expect nothing at all - which is one way to avoid being disappointed all the time.