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In reply to the discussion: Adults that spoil kids aggravate me [View all]Missy Vixen
(16,207 posts)>At least they understand more what it's like to have children and be a parent, whereas childless people seem to think it's the easiest job in the world and have no fucking clue what they're talking about. That sure doesn't stop them from criticizing or advising, though.<
I was a nanny for over ten years. As a result of my experiences, I chose not to have children. I KNOW what it's like to deal with a child 24x7. You bet I'm going to speak up when someone else's child is doing something that's either injurious to me or to my property, and their "parent" is completely oblivious.
YOU have no idea what it's like to deal with the "well-meaning" prying of family and friends over one's reproductive status, or lack of it. It's frankly none of your business, but I could write a book on the crap we've fielded over the years: "It's different when they're your own," "I didn't know what love was until I had a baybeeeeee," "You'll never understand what it is to be a parent." Uh, I understood enough to choose NOT to undertake it. You'd best respect my choice in this matter as much as you demand respect of your own.
It's interesting that you believe we have no business "criticizing or advising" when we are essentially subsidizing a very expensive, private hobby.