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flamin lib

(14,559 posts) Mon Dec 26, 2011, 06:59 PM Dec 2011

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My sister died today. [View all]

Long story, relatively short illness. Leukemia attributed to 47 years as an X-ray tech. Back to the days before they even bothered with lead aprons.

Got to speak to her a few minutes before she passed. Too weak to speak back, only whimpers. It was the hospice nurses’ idea as I was only living sibling not present at bedside and she seemed agitated. Something was holding her here and I was the only one not at bedside. I live 400 miles away.

So what do you say?

Said I love you. Said things look pretty bad. Said I don’t really know what comes next, if there’s a better place or no place at all. Can’t be any worse than here, right? Know that everyone loves you. Just let go, Hon, let go.

My brother called a half hour later and said she calmed down and passed easily a few minutes after I spoke to her.

No need for anyone to respond, just putting it out here is cathartic . . .

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My sister died today. [View all] flamin lib Dec 2011 OP

All I can say is Wow. warrior1 Dec 2011 #1

sorry.... spanone Dec 2011 #2

Please accept my condolences. polmaven Dec 2011 #3

Sounds like nurse had right idea, and you did the right thing. elleng Dec 2011 #4

My sincere condolences, flaming lib. babylonsister Dec 2011 #5

hugs... nt seabeyond Dec 2011 #6

So sad .... I'm so sorry for your loss. polly7 Dec 2011 #7

So sorry! Been there ... Ship of Fools Dec 2011 #8

You have my deepest heartfelt embrace. FarPoint Dec 2011 #9

So sorry for your pain, but glad you were apparently able Ken Burch Dec 2011 #10

. Arctic Dave Dec 2011 #11

So sorry... Kahuna Dec 2011 #12

Condolences alcibiades_mystery Dec 2011 #13

Prayers for you and your family at this time of sadness. n/t Tx4obama Dec 2011 #14

My condolences, RIP - nt Ohio Joe Dec 2011 #15

you gave her peace riverwalker Dec 2011 #16

My sympathy. Saturday Dec 2011 #17

My condolences....we lost a 55 year old friend and father of two last Thursday. yourout Dec 2011 #18

So sorry to hear your news, my heart goes out to you and your family. liberal N proud Dec 2011 #19

. HillWilliam Dec 2011 #20

Hearing that one is loved ... etherealtruth Dec 2011 #21

Words are such inadequate things. Fumesucker Dec 2011 #22

sorry for your loss, the Hospice angels working again...they know. Historic NY Dec 2011 #23

... William769 Dec 2011 #24

Sorry for your loss. DURHAM D Dec 2011 #25

May Peace be with you and your family at this difficult time. Nt xchrom Dec 2011 #26

I'm sorry... Phentex Dec 2011 #27

... Iggo Dec 2011 #28

I am very, very sorry for your loss. Ferretherder Dec 2011 #29

Too sad malaise Dec 2011 #30

i'm sorry for your loss barbtries Dec 2011 #31

I'm so sorry for your loss Yo_Mama Dec 2011 #32

I'm so sorry. And I'm glad you gave her your blessing Ilsa Dec 2011 #33

I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Dec 2011 #34

Well, you said the right things. Warpy Dec 2011 #35

me ====> you LiberalAndProud Dec 2011 #36

Leukemia is a bitch. My father worked in Glass/Plastics for an aircraft company 45 years demtenjeep Dec 2011 #37

peace to you and yours RainDog Dec 2011 #38

I lost my only sibling 2 1/2 weeks ago. I wish you comfort and peace. catzies Dec 2011 #39

so sorry for your loss riverbendviewgal Dec 2011 #41

That's hard malaise Dec 2011 #101

I'm so sorry catzies. polly7 Dec 2011 #108

I send you my deepest sympathy on your sister's passing riverbendviewgal Dec 2011 #40

My condolences for your loss. Frustratedlady Dec 2011 #42

My cat died at three years old the day after Christmas many years ago... cascadiance Dec 2011 #43

very sorry, flamin lib laruemtt Dec 2011 #44

good that you got to talk to her handmade34 Dec 2011 #45

So sorry for your loss. beac Dec 2011 #46

So sorry! sabrina 1 Dec 2011 #47

Hugs friend nadinbrzezinski Dec 2011 #48

I am so sorry for your loss. Ruby the Liberal Dec 2011 #49

So sorry to hear that...she was way too young... joeybee12 Dec 2011 #50

Very sorry to hear this NNN0LHI Dec 2011 #51

I am very sorry. I wish you peace. nt msanthrope Dec 2011 #52

She just needed to hear you. My dad hung on until his grandson was there and died shortly after. roguevalley Dec 2011 #53

A gift to both of you that you were able to speak to her housewolf Dec 2011 #54

So sorry for your loss flamin lib... horseshoecrab Dec 2011 #55

. Thor_MN Dec 2011 #56

I am very sorry for your loss. cordelia Dec 2011 #57

I am very sorry for your loss. femmocrat Dec 2011 #58

My brother died about 3 yrs ago at 39 yrs old. When he finally was towards the end and my southernyankeebelle Dec 2011 #59

I am so very sorry for your loss. no_hypocrisy Dec 2011 #60

Oh no. So sorry, sweetie. tblue Dec 2011 #61

I am so sorry, my condolences. You did the right thing, letting her know, but it still sucks. uppityperson Dec 2011 #62

I'm so sorry. GoCubsGo Dec 2011 #63

Sorry for your loss... greytdemocrat Dec 2011 #64

I'm so sorry for your loss cal04 Dec 2011 #65

Please accept my condolences nt steve2470 Dec 2011 #66

I'm so very sorry to hear this, and not sure if it helps to say I do share your pain. classof56 Dec 2011 #67

Man, that is tough. I am so sorry. dixiegrrrrl Dec 2011 #68

Sorry For Your Loss - Trust That Your Sister Appreciated The Support And Prescence cantbeserious Dec 2011 #69

I'm truly sorry for you loss. n/t deutsey Dec 2011 #70

... fizzgig Dec 2011 #71

That happened to me in '06. I'm not over it. Course, I'm not over a lot of things. n/t UTUSN Dec 2011 #72

There is no time limit to grief nor to letting go tavalon Dec 2011 #86

I'm so sorry about your sister. I'm praying for you that you have Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #73

I'm so sorry Raine Dec 2011 #74

BIG HUG proud patriot Dec 2011 #75

So sorry, but glad you were there for her.. likesmountains 52 Dec 2011 #76

So sorry to hear that. KeyserSoze87 Dec 2011 #77

Safe passage to your sister, TBF Dec 2011 #78

I'm so sorry for your loss. Withywindle Dec 2011 #79

Heartfelt condolences Dystopian Dec 2011 #80

sorry to hear about your sister.... unkachuck Dec 2011 #81

I Lost My Mom This Past Friday rsmith6621 Dec 2011 #82

Peace and Love flamin lib OhioBlue Dec 2011 #83

Flamin Lib... am so sorry...... glinda Dec 2011 #84

Of course we're going to say things, we're your online family tavalon Dec 2011 #85

BTW, Flaming lib tavalon Dec 2011 #87

Bless you for doing that, sounds like it was bothering her, and she needed that. webDude Dec 2011 #88

So very sorry. You did good. snot Dec 2011 #89

So Sorry for your loss. n/t Oldtimeralso Dec 2011 #90

My heart goes out to you qanda Dec 2011 #91

I'm so sorry for your loss. spooky3 Dec 2011 #92

So very sorry ... My sincere condolences. Bozita Dec 2011 #93

... progressoid Dec 2011 #94

I am so very sorry for your loss. auntAgonist Dec 2011 #95

My condolences. Lost much of my family too soon to cancer. Norrin Radd Dec 2011 #96

Wishes of peace and loving memories of your sister to all mtnester Dec 2011 #97

my sincerest condolences tishaLA Dec 2011 #98

My sympathies to you. mmonk Dec 2011 #99

I'm sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Dec 2011 #100

I'm glad you were able to speak with her... hlthe2b Dec 2011 #102

My sincere condolences mazzarro Dec 2011 #103

I'm very sorry. And I'm glad you got to talk to her and give her peace. Take comfort frim that. nolabear Dec 2011 #104

... ZombieHorde Dec 2011 #105

(((hug))) WilliamPitt Dec 2011 #106

so sorry. nt DesertFlower Dec 2011 #107

. Jack Rabbit Dec 2011 #109

May your memories burn bright sellitman Dec 2011 #110

My thoughts are with you cmd Dec 2011 #111

So sad. ProSense Dec 2011 #112

So very sorry for your loss, flamin lib. City Lights Dec 2011 #113

About your loss ron2013 Dec 2011 #114

My condolences. nt bluestate10 Dec 2011 #115

OMG, I'm so sorry!!! Odin2005 Dec 2011 #116