Women’s Self Defense Against Sexual Assault

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79. I think "some here" willfully misinterpret what is being said about teaching men not to rape

The fact of the matter is, for pregnancy and rape issues, the onus of preventing both is almost always on the woman. If a woman gets pregnant, how often do you hear, "Well, she shouldn't have been having (unprotected) sex?" Like she masturbated and her fingers/toy got her pregnant. Like there wasn't someone else in the room.

Well, when it comes to rape and self-defense, it's almost always up to the woman to prevent rape. Take self-defense classes, don't walk in heels, don't work late at night, don't wear that clothing, don't have those drinks, don't date that guy and invite him into your apartment... the list goes on and on about how women are told to deal with preventing rape. How often do you hear men told not to rape? Women are told almost daily how not to get raped. These are some of the things mom's tell their daughters when we're growing up. It's part of the birds and bees talk for (some) girls.

So when women say we shouldn't have to learn self-defense to combat sexual assault, the point of that is that men need to be taught equally that a woman's body his not his to "have" without her permission. That no really means no and if we're walking to our cars late at night in heels, that doesn't mean we're ripe for the taking. It means we've had a long day and our feet are probably killing us from being in those damn feet torture devices that are a requirement in the business world for most women.