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HuckleB

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10. Thanks, and thanks for sharing your story.

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Wed Mar 30, 2016, 11:39 AM

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What Not To Say When Someone Is Sick [View all] HuckleB Mar 2016 OP

Great Piece JustAnotherGen Mar 2016 #1

Thanks, and thanks for sharing your story. HuckleB Mar 2016 #10

Oh DOG, do I feel your pain! dorkzilla Mar 2016 #15

I have HLB27 Gene Ankylosing Spondylitis JustAnotherGen Mar 2016 #18

Thank you for that! dorkzilla Mar 2016 #24

... Behind the Aegis Mar 2016 #71

"Take your cues from the afflicted person" Behind the Aegis Mar 2016 #72

After I told the DU I was terminal with FTD I got several suggestions on things to try Omaha Steve Mar 2016 #37

I am very sorry to hear about your disease. n/t dixiegrrrrl Mar 2016 #61

I have a friend who was diagnosed with cancer CoffeeCat Mar 2016 #2

they posted that?! retrowire Mar 2016 #11

No, I'm not kidding. CoffeeCat Mar 2016 #19

What a vile person JustAnotherGen Mar 2016 #20

My mom had Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma 8 years ago dorkzilla Mar 2016 #29

I hate that question JustAnotherGen Mar 2016 #34

Wow, that is a vile way of thinking. I avoid people like that in real life. Rex Mar 2016 #51

My mom has very poor judgement as regards friends dorkzilla Mar 2016 #54

'You DON'T get to fuck with my tribe with me around and live to tell the tale' Rex Mar 2016 #56

If I took a picture of my house right now, you'd feel right at home dorkzilla Mar 2016 #58

Awesome, I love it. Family time for me is going with my parents to Half Price Books. Rex Mar 2016 #59

Hahaha, if I had children I'd wonder if I was talking to my own kid right now! dorkzilla Mar 2016 #64

None of us. That is why I cherish the posters here too that I've grown with. My friends and family. Rex Mar 2016 #81

If I could get a do-over that's what I would be dorkzilla Mar 2016 #82

ugh eom LittleGirl Mar 2016 #30

The internet is incapable of conveying real intimacy, so never a good place Lodestar Mar 2016 #77

from experience i would agree...the best thing you can do is just be with them...talk to them... islandmkl Mar 2016 #3

Absolutely! -eom- HuckleB Mar 2016 #88

My husband is going through this right now, with a long time friend and colleague. MoonRiver Mar 2016 #4

K&R Solly Mack Mar 2016 #5

One thing you can say is, "What can I do to help?" csziggy Mar 2016 #6

Nice! n/t Wilms Mar 2016 #8

Don't ask. TELL TexasBushwhacker Mar 2016 #14

Wonderful advice! nt dorkzilla Mar 2016 #16

I think you're right... Phentex Mar 2016 #23

Along the same thought TexasBushwhacker Mar 2016 #27

Cooking a few meals and storing them in a sick friend's fridge malaise Mar 2016 #50

This is great with some people, but I'd be cautious about it with others LeftishBrit Mar 2016 #25

You're absolutely right... dorkzilla Mar 2016 #63

This, so much. winter is coming Mar 2016 #17

^^^THIS^^^ jwirr Mar 2016 #22

Exactly. -eom- HuckleB Mar 2016 #79

What he doesn't address is skepticscott Mar 2016 #7

Yes. He does. As much as we might not like it, it's that person's body. ScreamingMeemie Mar 2016 #13

Not really, no skepticscott Mar 2016 #43

It isn't harming you. Not your business. Yes, really, yes ScreamingMeemie Mar 2016 #55

Novella spends a lot of effort skepticscott Mar 2016 #80

So letting the ignorant be ignorant never leads to bigger problems? HuckleB Mar 2016 #84

Totally agree. Been thru it enough to know how much sense your comment makes. n/t dixiegrrrrl Mar 2016 #62

That is none of arikara Mar 2016 #21

Even if it is an uninformed choice? skepticscott Mar 2016 #45

There is a difference between people being genuinely uninformed, and having the information but LeftishBrit Mar 2016 #69

I think it is honestly up to them at this stage - as long as they're adults LeftishBrit Mar 2016 #26

Also, please don't say "I'll pray for you" unless you KNOW a person believes in prayer/a god. Arugula Latte Mar 2016 #9

exactly nt retrowire Mar 2016 #12

Most definitely! HuckleB Mar 2016 #28

thank you! eom LittleGirl Mar 2016 #33

I am not a believer but when friends offered to pray for me I thanked them csziggy Mar 2016 #35

But why should you be put in the position of possibly being "unkind" in the first place? Arugula Latte Mar 2016 #39

It depends on the person - if I thought telling them not to pray would impact csziggy Mar 2016 #44

I get what you're saying, but my comment was directed at religious people Arugula Latte Mar 2016 #46

Exactly. nt Duppers Mar 2016 #67

I agree with this. Know your audience. shrike Mar 2016 #73

Yes, exactly. Arugula Latte Mar 2016 #74

No problem. n/t shrike Mar 2016 #76

If I'm ever terminal, I pity the first fool who tells me "I'll pray for you." Iggo Mar 2016 #75

SBM is a pseudotheory of medicine based entirely around removing the human factor MisterP Mar 2016 #31

Not true at all. HuckleB Mar 2016 #32

what not to say when someone tells you they are terminal- mopinko Mar 2016 #36

Thanks for the great addition! HuckleB Mar 2016 #38

ya know mopinko Mar 2016 #41

If I know I am dying I'm going to go live out my days at a no-kill shelter dorkzilla Mar 2016 #65

My MIL definitely got a lot out of having her dog near her during her last months! HuckleB Mar 2016 #68

Good information, thanks! sagetea Mar 2016 #40

my sister is in a nursing home. mopinko Mar 2016 #42

Your story touched me very much. Pacifist Patriot Mar 2016 #49

"Alternative medicine makes it worse" Orrex Mar 2016 #47

Yes, indeed. Yes, indeed. Yes, indeed. HuckleB Mar 2016 #57

I feel there are only two sentences that ever need be said. Pacifist Patriot Mar 2016 #48

I like the second sentence. HuckleB Mar 2016 #86

Be there for them. As much as you can. Rex Mar 2016 #52

When my husband told his 7 siblings that he had kidney cancer.... Holly_Hobby Mar 2016 #53

Oh, geez. Ugh. HuckleB Mar 2016 #60

Thank you... Holly_Hobby Mar 2016 #66

That infuriates me more than almost anything at all Orrex Mar 2016 #85

Thank you for understanding... Holly_Hobby Mar 2016 #87

This is probably applicable to most situations. Behind the Aegis Mar 2016 #70

Do not tell them stories of "someone you know" who died of the same disease shrike Mar 2016 #78

Oh, wow! HuckleB Mar 2016 #83