What Not To Say When Someone Is Sick

[dorkzilla]

54. My mom has very poor judgement as regards friends

I think it harkens back to her childhood - she grew up relatively privileged in a very poor society and didn't have a lot of friends. She is desperate for them (even in her 70's) to the point of accepting bad behavior on their part. She even has friends that steal from her.

I REFUSE to have people like that in my life. And while some consider me to be very cold in this manner, I have no hesitation whatsoever to cut people entirely out of my life (i always, however, tell them why before unceremoniously dumping them so they can't keep coming back and asking "are you mad at me for something?". Once I'm done, I am done); the truth is I have a very solid core of real friends whose friendship came on gradually, over time (except my very best friend who has been my best friend for 43 years...when you're 7 you get attached easier LOL). Everyone else I just consider acquaintances until I know them REALLY well. I'm just not that cliquish, and I abhor small talk so I'm not the kind to spend an evening out with the "girls" (I actually can't think of anything I'd enjoy less). I harbor no delusions that when I die people will flock to my funeral because I knew so many people (my father's dad was like that! SRO at his funeral!) My friends are just like me and as a result. we're fiercely loyal to each other.

Believe me, if my mother wasn't as sick as she was at the time I would have been VERY vocal and probably would have picked her up by the back of her collar and pushed her out the door. You DON'T get to fuck with my tribe with me around and live to tell the tale...at least not with your original teeth