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H2O Man

(73,517 posts)
Thu Mar 31, 2016, 01:50 PM Mar 2016

Trial Update [View all]

“It seems to be so very hard to maintain detachment of mind in the midst of raging fire.”
-- Gandhi


On Monday, my cousin met with the District Attorney who will prosecute the person who shot him and his son. This included hearing about -- and seeing photographs documenting -- the extent of his son’s injuries. An off-duty law enforcement officer who was enraged by the young man’s obeying the speed limit shot both of my relatives. My cousin held his son in his arms as the young man died. Then, although seriously wounded from being shot, my cousin got up and wrote the murderer’s plate number in the dirt on their jeep’s back window, before collapsing.

On Tuesday, my cousin and I attended a pre-trial hearing regarding what evidence may or may not be allowed in. For example, when the police eventually went to the murderer’s house, to retrieve a large arsenal of weapons, the guy had a poster featuring a picture of a hand gun, with the words, “We Don’t Call 911.” The DA believes that shows the defendant’s general state of mind; the defense attorney calls it prejudicial.

The actual trial starts next Monday. Since it is a non-jury trial (at the murderer’s request), it should only take three days. It will be good to get the trial behind us. Of course, he will appeal his conviction, and the process will continue. There is never true closure.

It is very painful for my cousin to see autopsy pictures, or to sit in the same courtroom with this obscenely smug thug. He seems to consider the numerous officers with rifles, guarding him as he is brought to the court, and the many officers on duty inside the court, as his personal honor guard. This, despite the fact that they treat him exactly the same as they do any other accused murderer.

Yesterday, while I was away attending a medical appointment, another of my cousins came and prepared for a sweat lodge ceremony. He used 48 cobbles -- 36 of white quartz, and 12 of black flint. Although he is from the other side of my extended family, he knows my cousin and son who were shot. He’ll be attending the trial with us next week. He knew that I’d benefit from ceremony

Between now and Monday morning, I will be focused upon preparing for the trial. I’ll spend time with my cousin. I’ll talk with others about preparing victims’ impact statements. I’ll pick up my youngest daughter, as her professors are all very supportive of her missing class to attend the trial. And I will spend some time alone, out at my pond, with its large fire-pit, and the lodge nearby.

I’ll feed the fish and the birds, and begin gathering firewood for the next ceremony. There are already enough stones to do a couple sweats after the trial ends.

(Note: Next week, I’ll try my best to post daily updates, with links to local media sources, etc. I really appreciate all of the support that community members here have provided for my family and myself, throughout this ordeal.)

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Trial Update [View all] H2O Man Mar 2016 OP
I am so glad to see you posting this, my dear H20 Man... CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2016 #1
Thanks, Peggy. H2O Man Mar 2016 #14
Do only what you can. Your friends understand, and appreciate the updates. Hekate Mar 2016 #31
Thanks for keeping us updated NV Whino Mar 2016 #2
Thank you. H2O Man Mar 2016 #15
Thank you for keeping us informed, H20 Man! Sissyk Mar 2016 #3
Thanks! H2O Man Mar 2016 #17
i will keep you and your family in my thoughts tk2kewl Mar 2016 #4
Thanks, Friend. H2O Man Mar 2016 #18
Thanks for posting Omaha Steve Mar 2016 #5
Thanks, Steve H2O Man Mar 2016 #19
Thank you for your update, H2O Man. I will be watching NBachers Mar 2016 #6
Thanks! H2O Man Mar 2016 #24
Thank you for keeping us up to date. Ilsa Mar 2016 #7
Thanks. H2O Man Mar 2016 #26
For those of us Old Codger Mar 2016 #8
Thank you! H2O Man Mar 2016 #38
No family ever Old Codger Mar 2016 #40
I think that H2O Man Mar 2016 #45
It does that Old Codger Mar 2016 #53
that history must make it even more painful... if such a thing were possible renate Mar 2016 #58
Hoping for the most just, speedy, resolution for your family's tragedy. denbot Mar 2016 #9
Thanks! H2O Man Mar 2016 #39
It will be hard to "relive" all of it, sadoldgirl Mar 2016 #10
Thanks. H2O Man Mar 2016 #46
Good To Hear From You ProfessorGAC Mar 2016 #11
Thank you. H2O Man Mar 2016 #47
Always loved your writing. Sad to hear about your family. Jemmons Mar 2016 #12
Thanks. H2O Man Mar 2016 #48
thank you for keeping us informed passiveporcupine Mar 2016 #13
Thanks! H2O Man Mar 2016 #49
Such a sad story. navarth Mar 2016 #16
Thank you. H2O Man Mar 2016 #50
When the thug is convicted and sent to prison... malthaussen Mar 2016 #20
Right. H2O Man Mar 2016 #51
May this jack ass be brought to justice d_legendary1 Mar 2016 #21
Thank you! H2O Man Apr 2016 #71
I can't imagine what kind of defense he could mount. panader0 Mar 2016 #22
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #72
My condolences on your family's loss. blackspade Mar 2016 #23
Thank you. H2O Man Apr 2016 #73
Holy shit, that's aweful. blackspade Apr 2016 #75
Best of luck to you and your family. GardeningGal Mar 2016 #25
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #74
Wishing you peace! 1StrongBlackMan Mar 2016 #27
Thanks, Friend! H2O Man Apr 2016 #76
I've been following this from the beginning, H2O man. I know ... 11 Bravo Mar 2016 #28
Thanks, 11 Bravo! H2O Man Apr 2016 #78
Thank you for keeping us informed. I was just wondering a couple days ago about it. Nature is Dont call me Shirley Mar 2016 #29
Thanks, Shirley! H2O Man Apr 2016 #79
For you, Shirley is acceptable. Have a peaceful time on your porch with Samuel and the rain. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2016 #91
My thoughts are with you and your family. Thanks so much for keeping us posted. Hekate Mar 2016 #30
Thanks, Hekate! H2O Man Apr 2016 #81
We love you... Liberal Jesus Freak Mar 2016 #32
Thanks! H2O Man Apr 2016 #82
From my heart to yours. Scuba Mar 2016 #33
Thanks, Scuba! H2O Man Apr 2016 #83
Always think of this case... Phentex Mar 2016 #34
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #84
Peace, H2OMan. n/t Wilms Mar 2016 #35
Thanks, Friend Wilms! H2O Man Apr 2016 #85
Bless You and good luck, K&R, nt. druidity33 Mar 2016 #36
Thank you! H2O Man Apr 2016 #86
K&R... spanone Mar 2016 #37
Thanks! H2O Man Apr 2016 #88
Peace and strength to you all. AllyCat Mar 2016 #41
Thank you. H2O Man Apr 2016 #93
Police often waive juries rug Mar 2016 #42
Right. H2O Man Apr 2016 #94
Prayers and light to you and your family rosesaylavee Mar 2016 #43
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #95
K&R. nt tblue37 Mar 2016 #44
Thanks! H2O Man Apr 2016 #96
It's been discussed here before- I think this guy was a little too comfortable for this to be NBachers Mar 2016 #52
Right. H2O Man Apr 2016 #97
Strength and peace to you KT2000 Mar 2016 #54
Thank you. H2O Man Apr 2016 #98
All the best to you. I wrote a letter to the judge when the bastard msanthrope Mar 2016 #55
Thanks, Buddy! H2O Man Apr 2016 #99
I wish you, and yours peace and justice. nt msanthrope Apr 2016 #118
I will be thinking about you and your family ms liberty Mar 2016 #56
Thank you! H2O Man Apr 2016 #100
you and your family are in my thoughts shireen Mar 2016 #57
Thank you! H2O Man Apr 2016 #101
Hang in there Pat. woofless Mar 2016 #59
Thanks, woofless! H2O Man Apr 2016 #102
Heart to you, Steve Richard D Mar 2016 #60
Thanks! H2O Man Apr 2016 #103
"He seems to consider the numerous officers,...as his personal honor guard." Spitfire of ATJ Mar 2016 #61
Right. H2O Man Apr 2016 #104
I diagnose people all the time.... Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2016 #115
I haven't followed this closely davidpdx Apr 2016 #62
Thanks, David. H2O Man Apr 2016 #105
i will burn sage & cedar for you and your family hopemountain Apr 2016 #63
Thank you! H2O Man Apr 2016 #106
yes! fire brings cleansing hopemountain Apr 2016 #117
thanks for the update LittleGirl Apr 2016 #64
Thank you. H2O Man Apr 2016 #107
I'm right there with you and your family malaise Apr 2016 #65
Thank you! H2O Man Apr 2016 #108
This coverage is important for us, too. Thankyou for keeping us informed. I admire your strength. marble falls Apr 2016 #66
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #110
In my thoughts Borchkins Apr 2016 #67
Thanks, Borchkins. H2O Man Apr 2016 #112
Thank you so much for keeping us updated. kag Apr 2016 #68
Thanks, friend kag! H2O Man Apr 2016 #113
Thanks for keeping us updated JackInGreen Apr 2016 #69
Thank you. H2O Man Apr 2016 #114
I'm glad that this is going to trial, H2O Man. A very dear friend of mine was brutally murdered in catbyte Apr 2016 #70
Thanks, catbyte. H2O Man Apr 2016 #119
Strength and peace to you all, H20 Man. polly7 Apr 2016 #77
Thanks, polly7 H2O Man Apr 2016 #120
It is 2naSalit Apr 2016 #80
Thank you! H2O Man Apr 2016 #121
Peace to you H2OMan felix_numinous Apr 2016 #87
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #122
(((Holding You and Your Family in Love and Light))) Melissa G Apr 2016 #89
Thanks, Melissa! H2O Man Apr 2016 #123
Thanks for the update and I am sorry you Lifelong Protester Apr 2016 #90
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #124
You are the strongest person I know Sensitive soul Apr 2016 #92
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #125
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts nadinbrzezinski Apr 2016 #109
Thanks. H2O Man Apr 2016 #126
glad I saw this Kali Apr 2016 #111
Thanks, Kali! H2O Man Apr 2016 #127
~holding you and your family in my heart~ GoddessOfGuinness Apr 2016 #116
Thanks! H2O Man Apr 2016 #128
Peace and strength to you and your family, H2O Man islandmkl Apr 2016 #129
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