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In reply to the discussion: Do folks think all bathrooms should be de-gendered? [View all]MH1
(19,361 posts)I've actually never been concerned with someone's "gender at birth" or whatever the eff it's being called. I take someone's gender at "face value" - whatever they present to the world. If it seems ambiguous, well that's none of my business. Not fitting society's norms as to how to present their gender to the world is also a choice that I strongly support. If someone walks into a bathroom I'm in and isn't very obviously the "wrong" gender I would ignore it. If they seem to have made a mistake that will be embarrassing to them ... well they usually figure that out on their own right away anyway, so again, no reason for me to be concerned about it.
I just don't see the point in making an issue of it where none exists. The "family" bathroom is useful for other reasons - particularly when an opposite gender parent needs to accompany a child. So why not just use that where possible?
Oh and in case it wasn't clear, I'm totally against the bullshit NC law. I think it's a trumped up issue having no factual cause related to actual transgender people, it has to do with some pervert(s) who committed a crime and someone wrote a stupid law that has the effect of taking it out on transgenders. Oh and the actual pervert trigger is conflated by some people with their concept of "queers" that does make transgenders a target of the law for those folks. But I think these people are stupid and bigoted and need to get a life, if they have time to worry about whether that gal who just came into the ladies room is "really a gal". I mean come on. (That said, not being transgender I might be missing something here, but it seems simple enough to use the bathroom that matches the gender you're presenting, and if you're presenting ambiguously, pick the one that's closest. Then most people won't even notice.)