IMHO This is sick, sick, sick...

[Bettie]

100. We lost our first child at birth

nearly 18 years ago. I'd give anything to have held her while she was breathing, even just for a second.

Since then, I've met many, many other families who have experienced so many different kinds of losses.

I can think, offhand of three couples facing Trisomy 18. One terminated, two continued their pregnancies, each of them did what they thought was right and did the best they could. None of the three regretted their choices, because it was right for them. Of the two who continued, one couple's daughter was stillborn, but they had photographs taken that they treasure and their oldest child got to see her sister. The other couple's son was born alive and lived for several hours.

All three families grieved deeply, all three are forever changed.

I'm trying to work out what you think is sick.

Forcing a family to terminate or carry to term is not right, but having a hospice program available is a good thing.

There was a time when a baby who died was just whisked away, never seen or held by the parents.

In the end, I'm saying you shouldn't be so quick to judge a situation you've never been in. Losing a child changes you fundamentally.