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[Dragonfli]

28. Sometimes when one backslides, they do it hard, it is most unfortunate.

I honestly and truly hope the poster can actually accomplish the goal he boasts of, but right now, he resembles a "former smoker" with a cigarette and lighter in hand, saying each time, "THIS IS THE LAST ONE!"

Meanwhile, although the goal is good and would lead to better health if accomplished, such "former smokes" instead increase their daily pack a day input to two, then three, while still hoping the exclamation made when lighting up is the same as actually quitting.

I was a smoker for a long time and went through such a phase (the "this is my last cig" thing in perpetuity) until I got married, and my wonderful wife, filled something within me, a missing part of my soul perhaps, that made becoming a non-smoker rather easy after the initial three week physical withdrawal. (she was a yoga girl on an excellent organic diet which gave her a certain glow of health I liked and admired as well as a heart that was radiant, positive and rare in such an unkind world.)

She only had to ask, she made no demand, just simply asked, assuring me that even if she hated the smell, and the threat to my health which concerned her greatly, she would still marry me and accept me for my other qualities that she felt outweighed my many flaws, that being but one.

In the end, after years with her, before she died, she had allowed me to shed so many of those flaws by her very presence and nature, her radiant example if you will, that I became a much better man before her unfortunate death.


I think perhaps that poster has that bit of emptiness within the soul, that needs must be filled by something positive, before true change rather the claim of such can take hold.

I actually wish him/her well on the journey and hope that hole is one day filled.