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cwydro

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64. 20 months is not very long.

Fri Jun 3, 2016, 05:19 PM

Jun 2016

A long time ago, I read somewhere that getting over a relationship takes at LEAST half of the time you were in it.

So a four year relationship would take at least two to start feeling like one was getting better. Always seemed like a good rule of thumb to me.

It hurts so bad in the beginning that you think the pain will never end. But it does.

Pain should teach us; apparently I'm a VERY slow learner.

Hang in there. It'll get better.

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I'm genuinely sorry about your experience. Tal Vez Jun 2016 #1

You're missing the forest for the trees. athena Jun 2016 #2

The succinctness and clarity of your post is almost as good as its content. LanternWaste Jun 2016 #3

That was so beautifully explained. blue neen Jun 2016 #4

Thank you, LanternWaste and blue neen, for the kind words. athena Jun 2016 #10

I agree with you, Athena... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #12

Agree yuiyoshida Jun 2016 #43

How do you reconcile holding others to a higher standard than you yourself employ? LanternWaste Jun 2016 #5

I hold myself to the same standard... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #7

the very definition of holding others to a higher standard than you hold yourself to. LanternWaste Jun 2016 #16

Or you could get to know me in real life... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #19

An observation is not a judgement. LanternWaste Jun 2016 #25

Okay. Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #31

But it's all part of the same problem. athena Jun 2016 #21

Is this because your use of "HillaryHoochies" got your post hidden? cwydro Jun 2016 #6

BernieBros... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #8

So upped the ante by getting in the mud with whoever said that to you. cwydro Jun 2016 #9

Okay... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #11

Let's examine the difference... whatthehey Jun 2016 #13

Well..... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #17

Anywhere from neutral to insulting, but that's irrelevant whatthehey Jun 2016 #24

In my very large circle... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #28

Even though your circle is large... Blanks Jun 2016 #60

That's understandable... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #63

I agree, it's not meant as a compliment... Blanks Jun 2016 #65

Hey...if we replaced Hillary Clinton with Elizabeth Warren... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #66

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BernieBros.... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #18

It is not a pejorative that implies sexual licentiousness REP Jun 2016 #20

The intent was not to label other women as promiscuous... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #23

I agree Bernie Bro is dumb, but "Hilary Hoochies" is offensively dumb REP Jun 2016 #33

Did you just say that I was cuckolded? Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #35

Weren't you? "Two years ago, my wife embarked on an affair with a wealthy man." REP Jun 2016 #40

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Oh, irony. REP Jun 2016 #48

I apologized... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #51

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In real life...I call women that are jerks "assholes"... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #29

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Already apologized for it...and explained why i used it. Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #47

So stop behaving abhorrently by calling women "Hoochies" REP Jun 2016 #49

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If I had fucked her over by cheating on her... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #39

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I am... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #30

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Victim blaming. Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #38

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20 months.... Buddyblazon Jun 2016 #62

20 months is not very long. cwydro Jun 2016 #64

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