Fat "acceptance" - from the PoV of a fat person

[KT2000]

112. Mothers and daughters!

I am so glad you started the post because many of us have been raised to feel shame for weight issues. We all really need to start talking about this because it is a big secret so many are living with and it is creating a handicap in women where there should not be one.
Your mother is really extreme but I bet there are many like her. The matching outfits part is pretty revealing of where her head was at.

My mother had the doctor prescribe diet pills (dexadrine, black beauties) for my sister when she was in high school. She then had me take them and I was probably 5 lb overweight at the time (age 12).

My sister, finally in her 60's, told me that our mother made her feel like a circus clown for being overweight and she finally realized that she was never that much overweight. She has lived her whole life though with shame about her body.

Why don't you get a copy of the book Body of Truth by Harriet Brown and give it to your mother after you read it. Brown does not get into the mother/daughter issue but it may help set you free from those negative messages you have heard for so long. And it may show your mother why her criticisms do not work anymore.

As Brown says - a person without body image shame is the person who is grateful for a body that performs well for them - their legs and arms work, their brains work well etc.

(I have no financial interest in the book - I had to review it and found it so honest and liberating)