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[ismnotwasm]

89. You mean if two people drink until they black out or are otherwise impaired?

Then have mutual sex because it seems like a good idea at the time? No. that's not rape. unless coercion is involved. In fact these circumstances happen all the time. I would guess every day and many times around the world. People hook up. Somewhere it's happening right now.

Unfortunately somewhere someone is being raped as well.


Anecdotally, when I was younger and unmarried-- I set out to get laid while partying (I'm female--now there's some different standards for you) if I slept with someone I regretted in the morning, I owned it. As did my admittedly "wild" friends. We had good laughs about it. I never knew one women to accuse someone of rape under those circumstances. I'm not saying it can't happen, I'm saying it's rare.

The women AND men--since that seems to be at issue here--I've known who have been raped were raped under clear circumstances. See, --and as a survivor you probably know this--when you are a victim of rape--it's not "having sex" it's a total and disgusting violation.