If you don't like porn, I have a solution:

[lapislzi]

9. Whoa, Taverner.

You and I are usually in agreement about these matters. And I would be the first to say, if porn offends you, don't watch it. Abso-frickin-lutely.

But, the larger point here is not that misogynists are watching porn, but that misogynists are making it and thus perpetuating the misogyny. And behaving as if this were a desirable norm.

I wish there was better porn out there for the watching, porn that didn't objectify the players. I wish that sex work was better regarded by society as a valid work choice.

If you're watching a lot of mainstream porn and internalizing the idea that this is what a normal sexual relationship looks like, then I think there's a correlative problem.

Watching porn doesn't make you a misogynist. But, if you're of the "make me a sandwich" mentality, it could certainly nudge you down that path.